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So, recently talking to my bestie, she and I realized how both our boyfriends tend to lack empathy.

My boyfriend is so stubborn that he isn't wiling to yield on certain things, or, even consider that he could be in the wrong. It has resulted in fights between us, ending with him being confused. I ask him questions like "if you were in my shoes, and I said that to you, how would that make you feel?"... and he then will come to realization, and apologize, or at least meet me halfway.

Do you think its possible to make someone more empathetic?

I met my boyfriend online in November, and we plan to meet in person for the first time in May. Since he lives in another country, he invited me to visit him, but he asked me to split the cost of my ticket in our FIRST TIME MEET.

What bothers me is that, in the past, he traveled back and forth to the Philippines to visit his ex-wife and even paid for long hotel stays with his other exes. He paid everything without them contributing! He often tells me he values me more than his past partners and sees me as his future wife. However, when I questioned why he treated his exes differently, he said it was because they were poor, while I earn a better income. I explained that I have major expenses, including living alone in another country and supporting family in my home country, but he insisted that since I’m in a better financial position, I should contribute.

It’s not that I refuse to split the cost, but I can’t shake this uneasy feeling about why he’s treating me differently. Am I overreacting, or is my concern valid?

Please advise what should I do? And, vote below!