We just broke up last night, and immediately started to talk to each other?

[Anonymous]

Long story short: Me and my recent ex/boyfriend we were together for 6 months and just ended last night. I was with his sister before I left for travel, and after that he’s been avoiding me and off at messages.

I was with him last night, and he ended things we walked with his dog first. I was waiting outside and the first thing he does is checking me out - and tells me I should not stand outside alone. Then we come inside, and we start to talk like usually and talk about furniture as we both like interior design - and snuggle on the sofa where my leg is on his leg and he tries to have distance but then he tries to be close as well, he brings up the us situation, and begins telling me that we do not work, he was so cold and like he just turned his emotions off for me + he seems so upset with me. He starts explaining that he thinks we are very Different people and I’m just like what Are you talking about, we are very similar and then he takes it back, he made any excuse he could just to exit out relationship, we just talked about travelling together by the end of the month and this was one week ago and a few days later he drops the bomb. Then he Said we always talk about going somewhere together, and I’m just like you don’t change your mind like that.

And I ask him questions how does he feel for me and he ask me what I feel for him. And I ask him do you have romantic feelings for me and he says he do not have the right feelings so we can continue, and I said there are a difference if you do not have any feelings at all or just a feeling that it does not feel right. And he disagrees, so he said he have feelings but not right feelings so that we can continue. He Said that we can have a full life together, but it needs to feel right if we are going to continue. And he said he’s sure about this and I ask him if you Are so sure, then why does my feelings and reaction matter?

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8 mo

Sidenote: so many questions he can’t answer for and does not know to explain, he tellsme that we are in first process of break up and tells me that he’s open to talk about this further, but not sure what he means? And today we talk about the jacket I bought him, and I was more trying to ask him what he wanted to do with it - but he thought I was trying to make conversation. While we broke up last night, when I was crying he was looking deep in my eyes all the time and could not look away

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8 mo

and kept saying that he really wanted this relationship to work and he asked me to promise him that I don’t close myself to friends to talk about this. 

I’m just confused and broken, not sure what he means or wants? I also have my things at his place so I will see him again which was the whole point of seeing each other the second time.

[Hardon-Collider]

You broke up physically, but your soul-forces are still tangled up together. You and your ex are still connected to each other's life-forces, even if you're no longer a couple. Think of it like this: a healthy relationship is a 'community soul' that works through both of you. When that relationship dies, the individual life-forces of you two are still interwoven, still working on each other. It's not an instant switch-off. It takes time and conscious effort to release those forces. The fact that you're still talking is a sign that you haven't fully separated those soul-forces yet. It's like two people who were once part of a single body trying to get out, but their limbs and organs are still mixed up. This isn't just about you two; it's a microcosm of the Sun-Spirit's influence on human relationships. The 'I' of one person is trying to assert itself, but it's still working with and against the life-forces of the other, which are part of a larger cosmic process of love and separation.

[HollyK21]

Ultimately your question is “why not you”, because from reading this post he answered all of your questions and gave you more closure than most women would ever get after a breakup. What you have to try and understand is that someone’s reasons do not have to make perfect sense to you — sometimes it makes zero sense. It’s just what he wants, and when you can tell that he’s making every excuse in the book to go through with this, that would be more than enough. So if I were you I’d go get my things from his house, not keep little strings attached for mind changes and just in cases. You won’t be able to heal, move on or anything if you don’t shift gears into the aftermath of a breakup. It’s been 6 months, you will survive this breakup.

[Anonymous]

Like I told you yesrerday: Move on. You’re wasting your time on this. It’s over, you don’t have a future with that man. The sooner you realize the better off you are.