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Saw this in a [pretty stupid] conversation between two male friends. They're in their 30s but act like they're in their 20s. One was about to text the girl he has been seeing, ask her out again. His friend stopped him to give him advice on what to say, not say. It inspired this question.

The scenario is between a guy and a girl (but you can do same sex couple if you want. But this is about gender roles and preferences.) They are not strangers. They know each other, but not that well. They have just started casually dating. They both like each other.

But... the guy is reluctant [will not] commit. He's anticipating her wanting this. He's trying to play it cool. But he wants to keep dating her, having sex with her, have her in his life. "She's cool, and she's chill, and she's level-headed. But I don't want to fast-track anything." So his friend says to him, "Just tell her, 'Look, maybe I'll get there one day, but I don't want to hold you back from living your life.'" Typical commitmentphobe player b. s. But anyway, thought I'd make a question out of it.

What I'm getting at here is if there's a majority preference toward: politeness, or assertiveness, or something else. And do guys and girls have a different, or the same, idea about this. And, girls, does the assertiveness turn you on/do you like it, or does it turn you off?

It'd be for some snacks/appetizers as well, not just drinks, but for simplicity sake I didn't write that in each multiple choice because it would be too many words. This isn't a formal or fancy dinner date, but there will be food, so don't focus on that. And for those who don't drink alcohol, you can sub in any other beverage. It's not important. But it is a date, and there is sexual tension between them.

I'm friends with this guy and there is a lot of obvious sexual tension between us. On my end, I also have emotional feelings. I know he cares about me and he won't actually try to have sex with me because he has no intentions on pursuing anything serious with me. He wouldn't try to use me when he can't give me what I really want. I appreciate that, but it still hurts to be close to him. And it seems like he can't resist flirting with me. It makes it hard to move on

He's been a great and supportive friend but I feel heartbroken every other day because I want to be with him so badly. I am a very sensitive person who is prone to depression and it's affecting me a lot. Do I have to give up our friendship for my own good? It will be quite awkward because we work together.