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Hi there!

This is based on my last thread, "Should I wait for her?", so if you want to know the backstory, look it up in here.

Long question.

Why would a girl after showing zero interests/investment in me, say yes to a date, and then the day before the date, reschedule? She said "oh busy day, I'm so tired and I'm sure you wouldn't like to date me in that condition, what about next week?" .. Dunno if that's a legit excuse, but it's the first cancellation..

Story short.

As mentioned. This thread is based on my last thread.

I asked her out and she said strangely Yes. But the day before she rescheduled the date to a day I can't, which I said to her. So I put the ball in her court and wished her to recall when she knows a day that works.

Yet (Monday earlier this week) I have not heard from her, which of course aren't that long time, but..

Should I break the ice or just wait for her to get in touch with a new date?

I'll give you an example: I was out working, doing food deliveries. I went to a restaurant to pick up an order. I had been there once before. The girl working behind the counter was really pretty. She was the same one who was working there last time I came. The first time I saw her, I was kind of in shock and awe of her beauty; so I didn't say anything, of course. Just made the transaction and got out.
This time -- the second time -- I remembered her (of course; how could you forget an angel like that?); but I had had enough time to process her existence and emotionally deal with it, and I had already grown a cold heart about her. (Because that is my modus operandus: noticing beautiful girls and growing a cold heart. I'm very emo.)

So I had my poker face on (which is what I wear to ensure that a hot girl doesn't think that I like her.) Unfortunately, my poker face is actually a Resting Bitch Face. So it may come off as a bit unfriendly. Maybe she might have even thought I was scowling at her. (I wasn't, really; I was just trying to cope with my internal angst. And I guess that ends up showing on the outside. The darkness in my heart and the pain in my soul.). But truthfully, I don't hate her. Not at all. I just hate myself for not knowing what to say to a woman.

Anyway, I noticed that she seemed a bit cold and rigid herself. So maybe she was mirroring the energy that I was giving off towards her. I was a bit surprised, though, and kind of embarrassed. I felt bad, because I thought that maybe I had taken it too far and come off as a bit TOO intense. I never wanted to come off as mean or rude. Just "not interested," that's all. All I wanted was to hide and camouflage my attraction and infatuation with her.

So, what do you guys think? Did she know that I liked her? Did she see through the mask, and was she annoyed that I was hiding it?
Or did my deceptive maneuver work (too well) and did she actually think that I disliked her?