This guy who I used to be interested (I stopped liking him and bro zoned him 3 years ago) in is still around and we used to chat at least once a week. He quite frequently would leave me on read, but I assumed it’s cause he was busy, no problem. But 4 months ago he replied to my story and asked where I was. I told him I was in Italy. He was surprised and asked who I went with and he texted a bunch of questions, to me he seemed interested in my trip, I probably misunderstood. I replied and told him it was a solo trip and it was something I’ve always dreamt of doing, I even added a couple photos. I definitely was not showing off, I was simply answering his questions. But he completely left me on read. I thought I said something wrong. I suspected he was upset that I didn’t tell him about my trip beforehand, but the truth is that I didn’t tell much people because I wasn’t sure If I had to cancel to due a health issue. So that’s why I didn’t announce it until I actually got to Italy. Since that day 4 months ago he just texted me again. But this time it’s a random TikTok video. It doesn’t make much sense to me lol, should I even bother replying? He also has not been liking any of my social media pics throughout the months and which is weird. He’s never done that in 7 years. Is this just a coincidence or is he doing this on purpose? It was all so sudden which is why I’m confused.
Should I “ignore” his text as well?
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If you don’t care about the friendship, leave it on read. If you care to make the friendship better, ask him if everything is okay and you are worried because you haven’t been hearing much from him. I know first instinct is to take things personally, but sometimes some people are just going through it and don’t have time to keep up on communication with others.
Thanks for the response 😊
I take your advice into consideration and decide what to do. I’m sorta in the middle cause while I do care for him as a friend, I realised after checking past messages (sorry If that sounds weird) that I’ve always been the one to check in on him and initiate conversation. I used to feel as if it’s a one sided friendship but he’ll be kind to me every once in a while and perhaps “breadcrumb” me and then I assumed I was overthinking. He lied to me a couple times and I let it slide. So I’ll definitely think about it and act accordingly.
Sounds to me like the friendship is falling apart but somehow y'all ain't letting it die out completely
You’re right actually. Sometimes I become tired of being the one to check in first all the time. But then he’ll send a random meme , pic or video, then I’ll respond ask ask him a question and hence a conversation starts. He hardly asks me if I’m okay lol. So I guess if I don’t reply now he’ll take a hint and I can decide on I want this friendship to go? I don’t think it’ll be the end of the world if the friendship ends lol😂 A mutual friend told me that my Friend always talks about me in a good way and apparently likes me. But I’ve known him for 7 years and he hasn’t told me anything himself. He probably isn’t letting the connection die out as yet since he still sees me as an option. What do you think?
I'd say the way you said it sounds so egotistic lol but yes I believe he still has hope but maybe he's just not trying to let a friendship of 7 years die like this and he tries to keep it going, either ways y'all either let it die or y'all don't 😆
Lol I didn’t mean it to sound that way 🙊
I think I’ll reply and see how it goes and see how he interacts with me in the upcoming days and then act accordingly in the future.
Sounds like a good plan anon, hope it all goes well lol