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A long time ago when I used dating sites, I would receive introductory messages by men who would say something like, "I love your photo, tell me more about you," or just plain old, "Hi."

At first I chose not to reply to any of the men I had no interest in. But I would get many of them pestering me with, "I sent you a message. The least you can do is thank me for it instead of leaving me hanging."

So I considered this, and decided to give all men from that point the courtesy of a reply. My reply was, "Thank you for your message, but I don't believe we are compatible. Good luck with your search." Sometimes it was merely a "I received your message. Good luck with your search."

But then I was sent angry responses back such as, "What's your problem? / You don't even know me. / Yeah. No wonder you're single."

As you can tell, I was damned if I did, damned if I didn't.

Even though I'm out of the dating pool, this has often left me wondering how GaG members handled first-approach dating app messages? Do you believe you should send all who are interested a response of some sort? Or do you think you simply don't owe everyone a reply? What do you say or not say?

28F, I just came back from a convention where I met a good amount of famous people (even some men from my favorite shows, band etc) & I was pretty laxed. For the most part they were all attractive, at times I had a hard time making eye contact but got better as I met more people. But for the average “fan girl” I was pretty chill, now why is it when I meet average men in my caliber I get so tense? They’re not nearly as wealthy, well known & while a few average men I met were decent looking they’re no where close to the celebs looks wise. I know it’s b/c it’s a superficial interaction & will become nothing more with the celebs, there’s nothing riding on it vs meeting men from the dating apps & potentially being in a LTR with one. The day before the convention I was talking to someone from the dating app for about 2 weeks & it was going okay but when we met in person I just wasn’t feeling it, was there about 15 min but dipped out b/c the drinks were taking too long & I didn’t want him to spend money on me, waste each other’s time & I had a long day. Being as old as I am & still never have been in a LTR is a red flag, especially when it’s conflicting since people say you’re attractive but men don’t notice you 🤷🏻‍♀️