What can I do if I have trouble dating men 30+ but have no problem finding very young men that might be my only option?

[SeaStorm1]

I got a learning disabilities women Yep I ha e been having problems with trying to get into a relationship with men that Are 30+ and not of them want anything do with me for a relationship. I met some of them through online dating. I sent two messages on Facebook to. my mum is main problem when comes to dating and didn't like any guy's that were bit older but always like very young men or young. I also can't find person my age they also not interested and also like to make fun both of same age. So far I only seem men that older then me immature but young men seem to be more mature. What can I do if I have trouble dating men 30+ but have no problem finding very young men that might be my only option?

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8 mo

I'm looking for helpful and tips and not looking for shame game will be report.

[love_conquers_lust]

You’re probably screwed then because there’s no reason those young men won’t buck the trend. Which tells me there is more to this story than you are letting on.

[SeaStorm1]

i'm not interstes in flings or hoockup. older men will not want to have a relationship with me. so might ad well go back to younger men since i had zero luck with older men that were age 30 and i'm looked like a 17 year old and has be mistake as school girls more then once. has be id more with women and only got id one time man. i don''t got any story and yet my mum still control my dating life.

[love_conquers_lust]

How does your mother control your dating life at 25? Are you in a country that arranges marriages?

Again, see my original reply. You might be looking for love in the wrong places as well. But the trend is not for guys to get more immature as they get older.

[SeaStorm1]

Yes , I already seen and not arranged. just control that I can't get men without a learning disabilities but can only date men with learning disabilities and so far is always been older men that are age 30 were on immature side. were not interested in dating a women with a baby face and very stubborn and strict mum. also controling to. only to me when comes to.

[love_conquers_lust]

I'm having a hard time following what you are saying. You can't get men without learning disabilities? I've never heard of a mother forcing their child to date people with learning disabilities. Are you sure you are speaking proper English?

[SeaStorm1]

Yep I'm speaking properly English and yep my mum does these things. so I'm forced to date men with learning disabilities and is not speaking English is texting or typing. I also got a stupid fucking learning disabilities that I hate.

[love_conquers_lust]

Your English isn't bad for having a learning disability. It's not perfect, but I can understand you for the most part. Is your father around or do you have a treating physician? Do you also have other relatives? I also don't want to cast you into the fire, but have you tried online dating? It's kind of shit show right now with all the guys on there. But you might be able to find a clean app specifically designed for people with learning disabilities. It might also be best to search where you work, or if you're a dependent, volunteer somewhere around like minded people. What's wild is the advice for you is similar advice for people without learning disabilities.

[SeaStorm1]

Nope I don't date men at work and have try option that are aim for learning disabilities dating site are scam. apart from real dating agency that aim but already tried one but couldn't get pass application form and sent twice. will be tying second dating agency that I went to social event on in Manchester. Has try all the dating apps and only got on date with immature older men that were not interested when did metup and yep mum also Will be with me.

[love_conquers_lust]

I hear you on that. For me, if the slightest bit of negativity comes from my mouth, block. I stepped back from dating apps and just want to focus on finding a better job.

I don't know, sounds like your mom is trying to protect you. By immature, do you mean they just want sex and no relationship? If that's the case, then that probably means other women have been giving it up to them, and they haven't been saying no.

[SeaStorm1]

Some maybe sex relationship and both relationship. guys from my some guys from my work sextitst pigs that got told off. were older the me. I can't even get real job and is always be a fake job. is more about messing me about when I said I'm okay for relationship and so far older men seem to like mess me about and not here to waste my time and they just fuck off.

[love_conquers_lust]

I’m not laughing at you. But I’m kind of laughing at the fact that even guys with learning disabilities can still be sexist pigs. I know it’s not exactly funny, but it’s like being sexist comes with having testicles or something. It’s just kind of funny.

[SeaStorm1]

They made a sexist joke only about me. Yet most of learning disabilities men that I did have a learning disabilities some were Cheaters and one was toxic. yet some reason they still try message me when Im not interested and I broken with one reason for being too toxic and blaming trust issue

[love_conquers_lust]

I have to apologize. Because I am just dying of laughter. You mean to tell me, that even with learning disabilities, they’re still fucking sexist? It’s like it’s not really guys fault. It really is our testicles. We really are thinking with our dicks. It’s hard wiring. Hard programming.

I promise you that they have been making sexist jokes about more than just you. I know those types, they make sexist jokes about all women. It’s all over this site.

[SeaStorm1]

Yep and some learning disabilities were Cheaters and learning disabilities were toxic. Verbal abuser and love bombing and gaslight me when I was in high school and was only 14 and I wasn't interested in having sex but one guy kept pushing and lovebombing and did gastight me and I did broke with one person in a public place

[love_conquers_lust]

I can’t apologize for their actions, but I can say I don’t agree with them. They may have a learning disability, but they sure as shit learned plenty from their own dick and balls.

[SeaStorm1]

Some of them were but I only had one good relationship with men with a ginger hair and I'd was best relationship but did also broke up to. I dislike other guys and I'm getting pissed off with some guys that are older then me that are age 30 did all immature men child did. part from one man that did have ginger hair.

[love_conquers_lust]

Thank you. Now I don’t feel so bad about being a dick sometimes. It’s like all guys are handicapped to be dickheads, which is a sexist thing to say, but it’s still funny.

[love_conquers_lust]

I hope you find a guy who pulls his head out of his butt.

[Oliverlogan263]

Gshs

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would say date who you can, but take your time and don't rush into things.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for MHO :)

[coachTanthony]

So because older men don't want a relationship with you they are immature? And somehow that makes younger men now mature? Don't follow that logic. How about you just find someone that has the same interests and compatibility that you do no matter the age? When you stop focusing on age then you might find someone.

[SeaStorm1]

So far I'm only Very young men only has common interests and yep he is 17 year old. That just been my experience with some older are immature but young men are not. can't find anyone near my age because they make fun of being same age.

[Constatine]

So what is the big deal here? because your mom likes younger more then older

Well love , when it comes to dating your mom has nothing to say... really

And like me i can't seem to get older / same age girls. So my girlfriend is 35 .. a\i am a bit passed that... when it comes to love trust , respect , caring are the keywords.

these words is not age related. I you find a yonger man who will give you that..

GO FOR IT :-))

[SeaStorm1]

I just can't go with men that I want is has be what my mum always be in control of me when is comes to dating and will not let of me because I look like a child to. she refused anything that I talk and reject each single older men. prefer a very young men age is 17 year old. I can't get people my age. my mum thinks 17 year old is mature then older men that Is 30+

[Constatine]

Sorry to say... But your mom has to back off.
This is your life your choice.. 17 is everything else than mature.
Tou know the difference between girls and boys.
If a girl is matured in her say 18e a boy needs at least 3 till 4 years extra to reach that same state..

Just saying...

I see that tou are 25 summers young. Old and wise enough to make your own life, own choices and own mistakes.
I guess you have to confront tour mom to stop this nonsense
And let you date who ever you want.
Dis you choose poorly ot will hurt... But in the end it makes you stronger and more mature 😃

[pervertedjester]

Either you're an adult that can make her own decisions and chart her own course in life or you're someone who still needs "permission" to go outside. If you're still controlled by your Mom, it might turn them off.

[SeaStorm1]

I'm still control my mum so. I can't even my own my stuff at all. have always be with her all time and yep that includes going on dates to.

[SeaStorm1]

She still control me

[pervertedjester]

Then yes that could be what's turning the more mature of them off. Find a way past that issue and stand on your own for a bit and the over 30 crowd should start to see you as an adult.

[SeaStorm1]

That h main problem and I can even get past that promblem. My mum is overprotect and strict to. worst one when comes to men with only a learning disabilities and age range can 18 to 30+ only. i got zero luck with men age 30?

[Steve1181]

For the longest time i always thought once you vecame an adult you were automatically labeled mature. That is def not the case at all. Older men can be very immature.

[SeaStorm1]

Yep most of older men that I want on didn't even want a relationship but did before we met through online dating and 30+ . only met on young men that is 17 that I met a social events. i can't find people my age since they also make fun of same age. yet two women said is no go for 17 year olds men that is seem to be mature.

[pervertedjester]

@Steve1181 Didn't say they weren't just giving her another possibility of what might be the issue as others have already suggested that.

[TruthBeTold77]

Honestly I thought you were going to also in your 30s and wanted a man close to your age.. BUT then it says you're 25! I'm guessing the men that like you are also in their 20s so I don't see a problem. Like just date them! Unless they are actually younger to the point they are still pretty much kids then that's not something you should do.

[SeaStorm1]

I'm 25 year old women with a baby face and I can't get guys my age since they make fun of being same age but get very young men that is at moment age is 17 year old. can't get men 30+ they are immature man child.

[TruthBeTold77]

I personally think 17 is a little to young tbh. They are not even legally classed as an adult in the eyes of the law and many people he's a still a child. I think it's wrong for an adult to date a child.

[SeaStorm1]

Yet I'm not from USA. from UK if said my profile and can't even find people my age at all since they make fun being same age. only can get 17 year old men that I met at social events

[TruthBeTold77]

I'm not from the US I'm from the UK too (England) I know consent is 16 but even so they are classed as kids until they are 18 which is some messed up law if you ask me. But I don't care what the age of consent is until then they are a child until the reach 18. A grown adult dating a child is just straight up weird and young. I would personally say 20 is the lowest you should go but honestly if you dated an 18/19 year old that is actually seen as an adult then that's up to you. Don't date children as an adult tho.

[TruthBeTold77]

God I mess up writing and spelling I hope people understand what I mean there's to much to correct lol will say young is supposed to be wrong tho. Screw the rest you guys can figure it out🤦

[SeaStorm1]

Yet has no problems with men dating younger women. yet come with women can't even date young men and only ever been in relationship with only young men only. since I again I can't anyone near my age. Can't get anyone that is age 20 . so if a person mature 17 year old.

[TruthBeTold77]

Actually I do have a problem with grown ass adult men dating younger women that are under the age of 18. Infact I personally don't think ANYONE should go down by anymore than a few years so you're 25 then 20 would be decent. But If you chose a 18/19 year old then I guess at least they are actually classed as an adult so I'd just be quite. Dating some that is a child when you're an adult is just gross. You need your head testing.

[SeaStorm1]

Is not me is my mum that said is ok if they are on mature side and had date 18 men. I have date a men with a learning disabilities and can't find anyone near my age or same age how many time to do have repeat over and over again to get the message.

[SeaStorm1]

Of cross

[TruthBeTold77]

Sweetheart I don't care what you're mother says and learning disabilities isn't an excuse to date children. I have some learning disabilities, but I don't date children. There's no excuse.

[TruthBeTold77]

Your*

[TruthBeTold77]

It's gross you and your mother both need your head seeing to.

[SeaStorm1]

Yet you don't get it do you. i looked like a 17 year old to from having a baby face. So what do you still think now.

[TruthBeTold77]

Sweet I'm 30 and get told I look 18/19 again looking young doesn't mean you can date children. What's wrong with you people. Jesus.

[SeaStorm1]

You also don't get it don't you
You want to use shame game do you then. if a person is mature and I'm looked on Google and over the age of 12 if you paying you classes as adults unless only 18 section can't. still can't anyone my own age or age 20 . people stil. I still see older men dating younger women. seem very immature for 30 year old. my mum control my dating life.

[TruthBeTold77]

Now you mentioning 12 year old. Bro you're just trying to find any excuse to be a pedo. You and your mother are both sickos. You guys need to be on a register list and kept away from all children. Sickos.

[SeaStorm1]

You also finding excuses to blame game yet I see older men with 14 year olds and yet 17 year old I seen more mature then any one that is age 30 and you just provided my point being immature and should know better. Every single people going to be different and age should not matter if they going to turn 18 .

[TruthBeTold77]

Then they are also pedo like you. None of it is okay I don't care if you're a man or a woman. Any grown person dating a child is a sicko and needs to be in jail and on the pedo list. I'm not immature I'm just not a pedo sicko like yourself and the people you know. What can I say birds of a feather flock together. Dirty perverts.

[SeaStorm1]

Just provide my point you are just too immature.

[Kaamraj]

As men age if handle their business correct, they gain value in the dating marketplace. So they can act with more discreation.

[SeaStorm1]

I can't get older men to want to get into relationship with me. so far is only been young men that I did have relationship with.

[monorprise]

Best to follow the 20% rule dont date anyone more than 20% older or younger than you.

[Ozanne]

Put the entire age thing aside and just look for decent and compatible for you.

[007kingifrit]

you're probably best to keep trying with 30+ men, they are more likely to want a relationship anyways

[SeaStorm1]

none of them guys are 30+ are not intersexed in a relationships with me and have try and try and nothing success. might as well just go back to younger men.

[Alex8736]

Just be yourself. Where are you looking? Dating apps?

[SeaStorm1]

Looking for long term serious relationship. I can't seem to get from guys age 30 and I already pisss off from them. only can seem to very young men that is 17 that I met at social events.

[MaxUsefull]

You weren't lucky but there are men over 30 who want women your age... especially if they are beautiful and have good character

[SeaStorm1]

Yet I'm all these thing and I'm also very young like a 17 year old and I'm mistaken by some people thinking that I'm still in high school or college. yet they rejected me. older men do not like girls or women that has a baby face and ver overprotect mother and controlled.

[MaxUsefull]

17 y old? What? I thought you were 25y

[SeaStorm1]

I'm 25 year old but I looked like a 17 year old as same time.

[MaxUsefull]

How is that possible? Lol

[SeaStorm1]

Is can because I got thing called a baby face looked it up.

[MaxUsefull]

Follow me?

[Randogirl491]

If you're 25 why do you even want to consider 30 men? Get with men who are more in your age range. Also 17 is not it, please

[SeaStorm1]

That is only guy that met and 30 men are immature child men. and 17 only one guy that I met at social events.

[Jkgordon]

It’s not your only option stop LOOKING and let it come naturally. You appear desperate meanwhile take up some classes and learn something.

[SeaStorm1]

Waiting for men don't do nothing at all

[Monalisa77]

U can't just waot lol hardly gonna happen if u don't make tje effort

[BloodCursedDeviant]

Well what’s the issue?

[SeaStorm1]

I just said is my mum is always the isuse