Search Results: get him to open up

Long story short, we matched & spoke for a few wks on bumble a few months ago. He asked to meet up, the times he gave weren’t working & I was new at a job/stressed at the time. He follows up again during this time & I didn’t follow through, flash fwd to a little over a month ago & I regretted not meeting up. I sent him a well thought message & he never replied so I assumed he wasn’t interested. Last wk, we end up matching on another app & I was shocked. He msgs me saying he remembers me & I told him I tried reaching out recently but apparently he didn’t know bc he hasn’t checked bumble in a while.

We’ve sent a few msgs everyday since EXCEPT this Mon, I reply to his message from Sun night Mon evening & he didn’t reply until Tues morning. He apologized & said he had a long night…I try to not be clingy but always thought it’s expected you should message matches daily. Personally, I only send 1 message a day or every other day/every few days when it’s very early on, might change to 1-2 per day if the convo is going in the right direction (when it’s just on the app & before sharing #s). I just thought the guy might take more…initiative. Is it a sign they’re not interested if they don’t message daily? We’re still only msging on the app but it can be exhausting checking often. Last thing I’ll add is he reached out Sun night asking for my sched this week to see when I’m avail to meet up. I asked if weekends work & he said he needs to confirm if he’s still scheduled to visit his parents & will get back to me/will try to keep that day open.

A friend of mine rejected her boyfriend’s (now ex) proposal because she wasn’t ready. They ended up breaking up immediately. It got me thinking, if her only reason was timing and she was open to getting engaged later down the line then why the need to break it off?