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I dated Pat in 1979-1980, and she decided to return to her ex-husband because she felt guilty about their divorce. In 2003, I reunited with Pat and we married in 2005. We divorced early in 2007 after she was unfaithful to me. In reuniting, I ignored the warning signs.

Later that year, I met Oksana and we dated throughout 2007 and 2008. Then she moved about 250 miles away and we drifted apart. I kept in contact with her and we eventually started trying to rekindle things on a long distance basis, but she wasn't willing to make the effort and I decided to say goodbye so that I could move forward with my life.

When you try a relationship and it doesn't work the first time. . . you can try it again but it usually doesn't work the second time, either. . . unless the problem was just distance (like graduating high school and going to different colleges.)

What is your experience wth trying to reignite a failed relationship?

So I met a woman through work, but she works for another company. We've been talking to each other for months, but in the past month or so started to have much more contact with each other, we call or text each other daily, but we are yet to meet.

We flirt, and are vulnerable and supportive of each other when we need it. She comes to me with her problems and I feel like I can go to hers with mine - but its not all problems that we talk about.

I really like this woman, I think about her a lot, but neither of us has made a direct move on the other. I've told her what I think of her, but not how I feel. I've suggested we should meet a couple of times, not with any intentions, but she deflects and indicates that she doesn't think we would work, but we get on really well. She then proceeds to talk romantically to me, asking me about my love history or what my love language is etc, so I'm a bit confused as to what she actually wants.

I know other men would be interested in her, it would be impossible for them not to be. She has told me about men which were interested previously, but didn't work out including ex's. This does make me jealous, but that's my problem, so I just listen to her.

This is the first time she has shown me any messages she received. It was a very flirtatious text from a co-worker and very inappropriate. She told me she's not shown any interest in him, and didn't like the message but won't report him. I know her well enough to know that kind of message wouldn't work for her anyway.

I guess my question is two-fold, what do you think she wants overall, and why did she show me the message?