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Guy I’m dating meets up with ex girlfriend (because of her mental health), is this okay?

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I started seeing this guy at my college he is my classmate and he asked me out first. So far he’s been so sweet/perfect and he told me a he had a friend from HS he sometimes hangs out with. But it wasn’t until I found out through his mom that he used to date that friend in high school. Sometimes when we’re together he’ll leave for a bit because he’s on phone and it’s because his ex called him. He explained to me that she has depression/a lot of diff mental health problems and she has no one else to be there for her. Which I wanted to be understanding about since I used to struggle with mental health also and having a friend to talk to helped. One night he cancelled our date because his ex had a depressive episode and he told me he “Couldn’t let her be alone today.” It shattered my heart honestly. I talked to his sister and she told me that his ex still has feelings for him too. But he told me that he really loves/wants to keep dating me. He and his friend sorta have a trauma bond over their parental issues (her dad died). He told me that him and his ex are just friends and he’s only given her a hug/a shoulder to cry on but that’s it. He is really a great guy and I still want to be with him but I don't know if I should be setting up boundaries. My friends all tell me he shouldn’t meeting up with his ex but I do understand because she has suicidal thoughts at times/she can’t afford therapy. I just hate that the guy i’ dating has to be her therapist. I don't know if it’s just my own jealousy that they seem to have an unbreakable bond even when I’m dating him. I want to trust him I get worried about her sometimes bc she still likes him. I just want him to meet up with her less out of respect of our relationship. I don't know has anyone had a similar situation / advice please?

Guy I’m dating meets up with ex girlfriend (because of her mental health), is this okay?
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