My ex boyfriend and I broke up after 1 year of relationship. For the past 4 months of the relationship, we continue to kept in contact and texted because we are still bonded by our pet. 90% conversation largely revolves around the pet, with occasional 10% updates on what’s going on with our lives (E. g family, workplace). During the 4 months, we did have some interactions and he would talk to me about his problems, occasionally slipping in drunk words like “I shouldn’t have let u escape” when he is drunk, I received small token of Christmas gift as well. Sometimes he would touch me the way we used to (when we are tgt), like grabbing my arm, accidentally blurting out “baby” when we were talking face to face. I might be overthinking or he might be doing it out of habit. As for his frequency of text, he replies me every other hour, 4hours averagely? But there are some nights that he wouldn’t reply at all.
He told our mutual friend that he has tried texting other girls, but the conversations didn’t sustain, and at the moment he is not ready to have someone in his life. Recently I told him we needed to cut off contact because I am not able to move on as the constant texting gave me hopes. He was agreeable to it, but the no contact only lasted for 2 days and he texted me something about the pet again. Our convo resumed for another 1 week, and this time I told him we really have to stop talking. He did say that he doesn’t find it a problem to continue to be friends even though our relationship don’t work out, but I insisted that I needed a complete cut in communication to move on. He did suggest that he can still send over the pet picture and I could ignore it, but I told him it’s best that I do not receive any message from him because I wouldn’t be able to hold myself back and reply him. This time he really respected it, and we have cut off all communications and not spoken ever since (3 days, not sure how this will pan out).
What am I to him?
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Tbh I wouldn’t waste time trying to figure out what you could mean to him, because nothing else matters but his actions, which applies more than any speculation. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter what he drunkenly confesses or what he says to his friend, it’s been 4 months and he doesn’t take the opportunity to try with you again, when he knows he can make a move. I think you made the best choice in cutting him off. Breakups are hard enough but worse when you’re still talking to that person regularly. It leaves you no space to begin accepting the situation and healing yourself. So now that you’re free of him you can focus on yourself. Q
Anyone who has to get drunk to be honest and open with you is one you should be weary of... this is a guy who can not look at you straight and express his true feelings. I would not risk on him. It is very likely that you are his fallback girl...
Just a friend or a side chick.