I’ve (25f) recently started seeing a guy (24m) and we have hit it off incredibly well. We have the same sense of humor, tons in common, and communicate very well! The only problem is that he is moving about 4 states away this summer.
We’ve both talked about intentions and are on the same page as far as dating with an end goal in mind & we have talked about dating as well. I got out of a very long term relationship this past summer and never even felt the way I do about this guy about me ex!
I am genuinely terrified of letting myself fall hard for this guy only for him to move away and it not work out. I know we’ve got 6 more months to spend in the same city, but doesn’t anyone have any advice or have you been in a similar situation? I want to move out of our city as well but I think following someone to a different state after 6 months is a lot.
He talks with me a ton about how much he likes me and how it scares him as well, so I know this isn’t one sided. I’m just very nervous! Please help ease my mind that I’m not just setting myself up to get crushed!
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I don't know your current circumstances. If you think he's potentially your future, should you not go all in for 6 months? If it looks good then and you both agree, follow him. There is emotional risk but it may just be worth it. If it falls through after you moved, consider an exit plan. Do you have work in that area? Can you move elsewhere (back home)?
However, you only just got out of a long term relationship. Are you sure this isn't rebound? Not very long to recover from your last one.
I do think there is a ton of potential. I’ve never felt this way with anyone else & it’s only been a little over a month. I am fully confident he’s not a rebound as well, I left my ex last summer but had been trying to leave for 18 months prior (without going too in depth, it was not a healthy situation) so by the time I left I felt as though I’d already mourned the end of the relationship. I appreciate your insight! It helps me reaffirm what I’ve been feeling.
Of course that's normal, you don't want to get hurt but I think you should try it because it could work 🙂
Not good to work.
Not going to work.
Would you care to elaborate?
He's younger and going to move away. WTF is the point? LDR's are doomed to fail.