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28F & I haven’t ever been in a LTR, I saw someone for a few months when I was 23 & that felt like settling. The bar is set even higher now & I’d rather be single than in a mediocre relationship. Ever since I was a teen I always felt like a lot of the girls were boy crazy & were so hyped about sex I thought they were overreacting. I thought I was a late bloomer & figured that feeling would happen to me eventually but it still hasn’t. I never really felt the pressure to date until I was close to graduating HS/ starting college & even then I had this feeling that felt kind of ick. I still do & the fact that I don’t care about sex at all to this day makes me think about asexuality. But I battle between not being sure if I actually want companionship, hence I use the dating apps very casually. Overthinking it & deep down does it just sound like I haven’t found the right person?

Backstory: We’re acquaintances (friends of a friend.), we met at a party in the beginning of the year. He’d been trying to ask me out I had a lot of things happening all at once. Career change and moving figuring out if I’d continue to live in the area or find something back in my hometown. I stayed in the area, he helped me move my mattress. Then we’d been texting pretty much everyday and he’d FaceTime me twice just talking nothing crazy. I had car trouble, that he fixed. I couldn’t pay him he knows I cook so he asked me if that could be his payment. I said yeah. We were hanging out eating, smoked some weed and we both had stuff to get back to.

Current: I found free roller skating at a park and asked if he wanted to go. He said yes and it became a date. We ended up hooking up. We had some technical difficulties and planned for next weekend.

That next weekend, He asked if I still wanted to go to the movies with him, I said yes. Dressed a little fancy and we came back to my place to eat. We watched another movie he really wanted to see b/c he hadn’t seen it. Movie finished at 3am, I asked if he was going home he said he was really tired. I said he can sleep here if he wants he said yeah. Surprise he wasn’t that tired. We tried with the sex again. He thought he was hurting me I assured him he wasn’t. I don’t think he believed me and we just laid there talking for like a half hour and fell asleep. He also left his earring. I didn’t say anything about it though. After we were texting for four days. The responses weren’t dry or sparse everything normal. Then he suddenly stopped.

Should I text him just a simple “Hey, you good?” Or just keep being radio silent? I can at least think of five reasons: He’s not interested. He’s an introvert a social battery thing. Focused on finding a new apartment that I distracted him from twice. He actually wants a girlfriend (not sure why). Or it’s all those reasons. Should I just not say anything and leave him alone?