My (now ex) best friend was a really sweet, kind, and caring person. I found out some things about him that caused me to have a mental breakdown. It was so far from the picture he painted of himself.
I didn’t know what to make of it at first and had severe depression. He only tried to say hi to me once, but once he realized I knew he stopped all communication with me and he even restricted me on insta. We had talked and texted daily before that.
I found out he was following hookers, then found all the escorts he slept with and the comments he made about them. It was disgusting. He’s an adult but I lost respect for him for talking about women that way and for dehumanizing women. He acted like he was a gentlemen so it was shocking. Also he had a girlfriend, so he was cheating on her the whole time while playing the victim. He flat out said she treated him like crap, but I know now they fought because he was cheating.
Then I found out he’s a sex tourist- and all the stories he’d tell me about just hiking and museums alone was bull crap.
Then I found out he was following underage girls 14-17 years old and liking their photos. This is where I started having a breakdown.
I remembered him mentioning lots of underage sex trafficking in the country he constantly visited. He seemed uneasy talking about it. The girls he followed were all from the country he visited and had sensual and flirty phrases. I put 2+2 together.
My brain couldn’t fathom he’d do that and I fell under a severe depression.
He never came to check on me, or talk to me. He continued his life as if I never existed, kept going on his sex trips, adding more hookers, just erasing his bio so no one would know it’s him if I did tell.
I kept quiet for 10 months until writing this.
Am I wrong to want to expose him? It feels like stabbing him in the back but he was pretending to be a good guy the whole time. He also threw me away like our friendship was nothing so quickly.
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Expose him. Filthy people like that don’t deserve respect. I used to have a friend that I later found out was a pedo.. he was dating a 15 year old while he was 24. And he was trying to pressure her into having sex with him. And he was following a lot of underage girls on Instagram, and commenting inappropriate things on their photos. So I exposed him, and I warned our mutual friends about what he’s been doing. I don’t regret exposing him.
How did you expose him? Did they believe you? He’s such a “nice guy” I’m scared no one will believe me
When I was about 14, my neighbor was my friend until he molested me!! Then, I tried to expose him for it!
Im so sorry! I was also SA when I was about 11. I didn’t say anything though. When I was 14 and 15 lots of adult men would stop to flirt with me and try to convince me to get into their cars. It’s a horrible feeling.
I'll bet!! Sorry to hear about yours, too!!
I didn't find out `til decades later that he also got my little brother and one of my ex-sisters!! I guess he didn't bother with Karen because she was only 7 or 8 at the time. After he got me the first time (he got me twice!), he said he wanted to become a priest!! I told a friend of mine years later and he laughed and said, "THAT figures!!".
One night, I was sleeping on the porch swing, as I did nearly every night in the summer. Around 3:00 a. m. or so, I'm sound asleep when I felt something hit one of the swing chains above my head! I did my damnedest to try to wake up but I was so sleepy, it WAS a chore! I just couldn't get my eyes open! When I finally did, I saw some guy standing directly over me at the head of the swing, beating off and looking like he was gonna cum on my head!! I got up and sat on the swing trying to figure out what I just saw and he turned to the wall of the house behind me, blew his load on the siding and then jumped over the railing and dashed around towards the back of the house before I could get a look at him!! I suspect it was the same guy! He was built the same but, the hair was completely different. It was like a very shiny Prince Valiant cut rather than the slightly messy short brown curly hair the other guy has.
I guess that aspect of being a girl isn't very cool at all!
A few miles from where I live, there's 3 major universities and a few smaller colleges all within about 5 miles of each others and I've heard a number of the girls that live on campus will be out bar hopping at night and, between the bars and getting back to their dorm rooms, some will get molested or raped and I've wondered why a kind of escort service can't be put together to see to it those girls get back to their dorms safely at night? If it was possible, I'd do it myself! Not many guys wanna risk tangling with a muscular 6' 9" drummer!!