In your mind who is more to "blame" for a woman getting involved in abusive - physically mostly - relationships & staying having kids even not leavin?

I was bored last night & watching Dr Phil reruns and happened upon an episode about physically abusive relationships which of course lead to watching a bunch of other ones.

Now I've never been in an abusive relationship & can't wrap my mind around being in one.

Staying in one.

And even having children with someone who is physically - even dangerously physically - abusive as some of these women in these episodes. And the comicality is most of these guys appear to have anger or abuse issues before kids so likely BEFORE marriage to.

Anyway

One of the major things I found these women had in common was a lack of a job & a dependence on their husband. They essentially put themselves in these relationships as I suppose to them life is scary. God only knows how having a job & being responsible for bills, etc. is more terrifying than having someone strangle you with a belt or whatever else.

Anyway.

The lack of job & dependence really struck me. We're not in the 1900 anymore. We're not in the 1800 anymore. We're not in Saudi or other countries where women have few rights.

I am pointing out the above & that women can actually work quite easily nowadays.

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Because yes you could blame these women growing up in households where their mother was abused but WHY continue it. WHY put up with it. WHY expose their children to it like their mother exposed them. During their mother's time it was relatively harder for a woman to strike out on her own. But that time and that mentality doesn't exist anymore per se.

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Similarly while growing up they may have gone to friends houses where parents were caring, etc. whereas these women's own childhood homes were nuthouses. You'd think they would strive for having a household like their friends not repeat their childhood nuthouse.

Or even going to adults friend's households & seeing how a relatively normal relationship is yet these women continue to maintain a relationship that is indeed abusive & dangerous.

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And yes I am VERY well aware men can be involved in emotionally or physically abusive relationships too.

I am focusing on women because that's what I watched and the episodes were like what the fucking hell is WRONG with these women. Like what is WRONG with their brains. Which applies to men as well that stay in such relationships.

Nobody has any right to treat anyone else poorly.
In your mind who is more to "blame" for a woman getting involved in abusive - physically mostly - relationships & staying having kids even not leavin?
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