Why does society blame women for issues with children?

[BlackElph]

Woman get blamed for their daughters having daddy issues. Women get blamed for their grown sons going to jail. I'd there is a problem with the child or adult that raised women are told they are at fault. If the father leaves and abandons his child the woman is told she should have picked better.

[Anonymous]

The majority of societal problems have been blamed on men for decades, and especially in recent years, which is unfair. We are just now seeing women finally being held responsible for their behavior and choices as well, which is a good thing.

There are a lot of societal problems that can be linked directly or indirectly to the decline of two parent households and the exponential rise in children raised by single mothers. The effects on a child. and the adult he or she becomes, of being raised without a father have been well studied and all of those studies show the same devastating effects on the individual. It's not hard to understand how the cumulative effects on society have also been devastating.

Today, half of marriages end in divorce and women file about 80% of then. The number one reason for divorce is lack of commitment. It's not difficult to see what has been happening. And yes, women are absolutely responsible for a majority of that. Not all, but most. Yes, a lot of men abandon their children and their mothers, but they are just doing the male versions of abortion, which has given women the legal ability to walk away from parenthood with no consequences, which they have done almost a million times a year in the US alone.

The fact is that women have been given a pass for many years on their irresponsible and harmful choices and behaviors. They are only recently beginning to be called out for them, as they should be because their behavior has contributed significantly to the decline of western society.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you for MHO

[Sonorous]

Because it is mentally easier to simplify things than it is to consider daunting complexities. Especially when the complexities don't validate one's own beliefs, values, behaviors, actions, etc.

Since they have associated their previous perspectives, attitudes, and actions so strongly with their identities, many primates feel as though they must cling to them. Because letting them go would mean letting go of a piece of themselves. And that would arise stressful feelings since by changing their perspective, they'd have to admit they don't know something as well as they thought they knew it. Which is a big ego hit when anyone has something so closely linked to their identity.

Here's a YouTube clip from a creator that has critiqued people's views of personal or individual responsibility. It came to mind when writing my response to this question. He highlights many deeper issues that people don't like to think about because the solution would mean that they have to be more compassionate & generous to those they may feel don't deserve it. It's much easier to just blame an individual rather than question the many systems that are being enforced & the nature of our involvement in them.

Some examples are at 35:35 & 49:19

https://www.youtube.com/embed/tp4FGAv2gks

[Sonorous]

so closely linked to their identity & lifestyle.*

[Msputiton]

Tbh. It's pretty much deflection.

Men want everything to be women's fault.

Women want everything to be men's fault.

That's a lot easier, because the alternative is to admit both have blame.

But when society/politics wants us to make everything a war against each other this is how things go.

Left vs right.

Men vs women.

White vs black.

Abortion vs antiabortion.

The list goes on.

Depending on which news and podicasts and shows people watch puts ideas in their head.

We live in an America where politicians are trying to create anger and outrage, so their voters do nothing but fight and blame the other party for problems.

Why? If their party voters are so angry towards the other party they are too busy blaming and deflecting to see their own party doing them dirty. No matter what comes their own voter defend them and vote them in because they are so afraid the other party will win.

So what has that made. An America where politicians can do as they please and have no accountability for their actions.

Sadly American voters are so busy fighting they don't even realize how bad things are.

Our last elections the best we could get was

Hilary vs trump followed by

Trump vs biden

And possibly a rematch of

Trump vs biden.

This is what we should be discussing the level of presidential candidates being provided for us.

If America doesn't wake up its only gonna get worse.

[BlackElph]

Yeah I feel like it's a blame game too

[Msputiton]

Yeah very ridiculous

[Jennz6]

It’s the men that blames females, I don’t blame you

[BlackElph]

Yeah that's true. And we'll I don't have any kids it's just something I've been noticing for a while.

[humanearth]

Look I hear the same stuff about men

Here is what it boils down to

Some people just have to bitch about anything and everything.

Them are the assholes you stay away from. Their negative vibes, will turn you into a negative person.

Positive person promote others into positive people.

Sounds like you need a smile today

So here is a photograph of me in a bikini. I was getting ready to go shopping at the Mall of America in Minneapolis Minnesota.

But when I got there the mall cops thrown my ass out in under 30 minutes of me being there

[BlackElph]

You actually did make me smile and thank you. I definitely do need to be around positive people

[humanearth]

Nothing like a man in wearing a bikini and beard combination to cheer someone up

[BlackElph]

You rock a bikini better than me

[humanearth]

by the way
I wear that bikini every summer to the water sporting events. I get free drinks, food backstage passes and who knows what else. All because I have no fear and wear a women's bikini set

I should have gone into the entertainment field for work.

I figure if you're going to make a scene, you gotta be seen. I always say

[humanearth]

To you're reply "You rock a bikini better than me " I hear that a lot from women and from dudes I hear. "Damn, I wish I had the cuts to wear one"

Are the two most common thing I hear from people

[BlackElph]

Oh so you know you you got it going on

[humanearth]

Hell yeah, I know I look good, even in my 50s I still rock it

[Jennz6]

@humanearth Love ❤️ your bikini

[humanearth]

@Jennz6 thank you, i appreciate it

[Jennz6]

I used to have a profile pic of me in my bikini but I was getting too many guys wanting to follow me and asking for nude pics so I changed it to default avatar lol

[humanearth]

@Jennz6 use my bikini photo for a profile. I bet they would stop in a heart beat lmao

[Jennz6]

Yes that would work lmao

[boggboss]

Thats not what I have seen online I have seen blamed put at both feet but meh any clown with half a brain can work out it takes two parents to successfully grow a child so if it fuckes blame is on both

[BlackElph]

Exactly. Both are to blame. But I legit have to debate some men and a few women to explain that it's not only the women's fault

[boggboss]

Ain't that what the Internet is tho

[Jennz6]

@BlackElph
@humanearth
Don’t you Love his bikini

[humanearth]

@Jennz6 hey, I think you posted on the wrong person

[Jennz6]

@humanearth sorry

[BeMuse]

Why wouldn't they? You are responsible for your children. Men are as well if and when they have a role in the kid's life. 70-80% of divorces are initiated by women, thus women bail on men the majority of the time and the courts tend to favor women in family law when it comes to custody of the children. Thus, if you have power over the children legally, you have responsibility for them. If you don't want that responsibility, you have to give up your power...

[Filthy_Immigrant]

women love to have their children with deadbeat losers. also during a divorce women already have an 86% chance of getting the custody of the children and women iniate the divorce more than 50% of the times so there is literally no way you can't blame women for chosing to be the miserable single mothers most of them end up being nowadays.

[242plusInfinity]

So fucking tired of people like u. Always one-sided as fuck. Classic ass loser mentality.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

@242plusInfinity not as tired of simps like you who think embracing their naïvety and "all women are angels" mentality is gonna give them the pussy points they are so desperately after both in real life and here over the net

[Anonymous]

The primary reason that issues like this happen is lack of a father figure. I have never heard of any instance where the mother was blamed for this unless she intentionally pushed the father out, which happens very often due to the high divorce rate and women are far more likely to initiate it.

[OddBeMe]

Because we expect the father to have already walked away.

[BlackElph]

That's interesting

[OddBeMe]

Its still BS, but thats prob why subconsciously. Then we put all the weight on the moms unfairly

[BJP21]

Ignorant society will blame the woman because she's liable to be an easy push over.

[jimmy2]

Hold up... we all make our choice individually

[joeldalton]

Because women are the gatekeepers of sex.

[BlackElph]

It takes 2 to raise a baby. Sex is only how a baby is made

[joeldalton]

Right. And in a traditional relationship, the sex doesn't happen until the relationship is codified in a marriage. Which is less likely to result in the male bailing out.

[BlackElph]

The saying goes that men are the gatekeepers of marriage so wouldn't you agree that they are still at fault also?

[joeldalton]

does sex potentially result in babies?

[BlackElph]

Yes. And marriage results in a better outcome for that baby

[joeldalton]

yup. So don't hoe around.