In an affair, why is the woman always get blame for being the home wrecker when the man is equally at fault?

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DoggyDude · Accepted Answer

I don't think that is a correct statement. Though, as an academic matter, deciding what I'd say if it was correct (which I feel its not):

A possible reason could be that the woman should know better than the man. Here meaning that, a woman generally is the one who has face the infidelity of a man (because it is possible for a guy to get a girl pregnant then just skip out leaving her with the baby, and without support).

However, the reality is, men are to blame, precisely because they can just get a girl pregnant and leave her with little to no concequences outside of guilt or societal judgement.

So another 'hypothetical' is that women are seen to be responsible for attraction. Men are usually more passive in attraction, but the average woman goes very far to be her most attractive. Therefore idiots might equate the fact that the girl goes out of her way to attract a man to put blame on her unfairly.

So those are two 'fictional' but consistent reasons. The reality is, the man is more to blame because they are the ones in a position of freedom to move on without obvious consquence and as such bear a greater responsibility for the harm they cause by unfaithfulness.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

Tinder has relevant stats towards this question.

We know that the top 1% of men get most of the likes from most women. It is not really significant if it is the top 10% or even 20%. The bottom 80-90% of men are trying for the attention of the bottom 20% of women.

So the effective sex ratio (M:F) is say 80%:20% (bottom women) and maybe 10%:60-80% (top women). The numbers are rubbery but it is not in doubt that women are the gate keepers of sex as often noted. Women are the the choosers not the bidders in the sexual market place.

One of the interesting aspects is women rate men as 50% more attractive if they think the man is married than if they they are single.

Add in nominal fathers are excluded from paternity in about 28% of paternity tests.

It takes two to tango for sure but it seems that the woman as home wrecker is a real world assessment that women do choose married men when they could choose single men. That there is a difference in sexual agency between men and women

Hawaiikai · Accepted Answer

The only thing I see wrong would be if a girl knows he is in a relationship then I would call that a bit shady on her part. Even worse, if she is friends with the girl But if the guy referred him self as single even if he isn’t and the girl didn’t know, the girl should not be at fault because she didn’t know. And I don’t think she could be called a homewrecker because she’s out here having fun doing what she wants to do. And has the freedom to do so. while the guy is out here cheating on his other half.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Unfortunately, regardless of any context, both genders will blame women when it comes to infidelity. If you have an affair with someone’s husband, you get the title of home wrecker. If you cheat on your husband, you are a whore. I have been telling other women so many times that women are nothing in this world other than a sex object but they refuse to accept.

Avicenna · Answer

I doubt men escape blame when they have affairs

MrOracle · Answer

You got the blame because you were HER friend and you KNEW his was married, and so you betrayed her directly. And you continue to try to excuse yourself. This wasn't a mistake that just happened out of the blue one day - you were clearly working towards it for some time and then continued long after the first event. That was 100% your CHOICE and 0% a mistake. And that is why she is so angry at you.

If you were some random woman, and he'd told you that he was single, and you had no way to know otherwise, she wouldn't be (nearly as) mad at you. But your situation was VERY different.

JacobJordan · Answer

Whoever cheats is at fault. If the woman knows the man is married then she is more at fault because she knew and decided to do it anyways. She should have said no. The guy should have not cheated when he was married obviously. It is a situation of both are wrong and most will assume the woman knew he was married (because most guys suck at hiding stuff like that)

888theGreat · Answer

Because Women in the end say no or yes. Men are aggressive by nature and think with brain between their legs. They are that way to reproduce. God made it that way to repopulate. See God loves kids and hates abortion.

Women are the moral conscious of society. Men teach work ethic and are the enforcers for proper behavior.

Seinna · Answer

Men have more loyalty towards men than women have towards women. So women always get more blame for everything from both sexes. Personally I don't think both are equally to blame - the person who cheated is more guilty.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

it is very rare that there is equal fualt, it is usually just one person being a good partner and the other being an asshole. So in cases where a woman cheats, and the man does not, and she gets called a homewrecker for it, she is at fault.

ManOnFire · Answer

Is this true? Men definitely get a good sacking for cheating. But then... some women are stupid and will still take the guy back.

OtterMan68 · Answer

According to Hollywood, if a man cheats, he's a scumbag who needs to be humiliated, but if a woman cheats, she did so because her needs weren't being met, and she has to be able to explain herself.

David94358 · Answer

I would imagine the guy would probably also be blamed

SolitarySolace · Answer

It’s the fault of whoever had the affair. Can’t blame both parties when one of them has an affair and the other didn’t. I know you women just love punishing men

laly520 · Answer

cuz society tends to put blame on women also men get blamed too just not as much as women

Berethor · Answer

That is because women are less sexual than men and women are the gatekeepers of sex.

RHK36 · Answer

It should be more blame on whoever is in the relationship because they allowed someone from outside to come into their life.

JayBones · Answer

If you're worried about blame maybe you aren't mature enough for an affair I think you should stick to boring ass monogamy

9in_Serpent · Answer

Just dumb society double standards or beliefs as usual

In_Trance · Answer

I don't think you can assume always. Clearly it would depend on whose home is being wrecked

Bobby88t · Answer

Yes you are right! I take the responsibility

DextroShade · Answer

Because women decide who has sex.

MemeSupreme · Answer

you gotta give more context

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Both of them get blamed equally.

sheikalana · Answer

Both are equally guilty.

Booklover_90 · Answer

I ask myself that very same question.

worldscolide · Answer

I hate cheaters regardless of gender..

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Troll of the day.

Nice222 · Answer

I believe the man is more at fault.

Anonymous · Answer

They're both trash people.

Anonymous · Answer

Because that's how it is

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