Once an affair is discovered, why the mistress received most of the blames when the husband is equally at fault?

[TheLovelyWoman]

The husband could have said no, but he went along with it. He chose to sleep with her knowing that he is married and has a family.

[Twalli]

The mistress is blamed more because if she didn't agree, then he wouldn't have cheated. Of course, the counter argument is that he would have found someone else, but that's not the way people see it. The mistress is the one who allowed him to cheat. If everyone refuses to have sex with someone who is married and would be cheating, then that person wouldn't cheat.

[TheLovelyWoman]

But he has a choice.

[Twalli]

Yeah, he does, but so does she and she knowingly allowed a married guy to cheat with her. She facilitated cheating.

[DryGermanGuy]

Nowadays the husband certainly gets at least a share of the blame. But traditionally most societies were patriarchal, so of course the mistress got all the blame (and the whip).

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[integrale77]

Both are equally guilty but I'd say there is a little denial taking place and the woman is just seeing the other woman as a threat to her relationship disregarding that everything has fallen apart already.

[Ariesman81]

Cause she knows better. We men are just slaves to our instincts. You know you can't hold us responsible when the blood starts pumping.

[TheLovelyWoman]

He always beat it down. Lol

[Ariesman81]

And break my new countertop? pfft... you must be crazy

[TheLovelyWoman]

Just beat it until it reduced in size

[Ariesman81]

I don't think you fully understand how this math works

[ilistengood]

Actually unless she knew it makes him more to blame,.

[In_Trance]

You're only looking at it that way because you've been in that position so many times

[Paige90]

Both are equally guilty

[Paige90]

Or maybe the girl he was having sex with didn't know he was married?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Usually the married one gets all the blame

[MasterKS]

Double standard of society.

[Jennz6]

Don’t blame me, it was his fault

[CubaPirate]

Just hypocrisy

[zombiewoof]

he is the one that cheated

[Anonymous]

Because of patriarchy.