What should I do if my ex-girlfriend exposed my secrets?

[acoustic]

I heard that my ex-girlfriend has been revealing my secrets to our common friends. How would you react if you found out that your ex exposed your secrets to your friends? I'm really angry to her but do not want to contact her as well. What should I do?

[DaveJord]

Do nothing, do not respond to it, act like she is crazy. That is what I do, there is no furry like a woman scorned. Most people know this, and they would be inclined not to beleive her, but the more upset you get about it, the more truth you give to the rumors.

Like just ignore her, if people try to say anything to you about what she is saying, you just say dude I don't know why she would do that, its all-crazy shit. So, I do not even care what she says, it's not like people are going to believe that shit. But at the same time, you say nothing but nice things about her, like never say a bad thing about her to anyone. When you freinds ask, you just say yeah... there was time period, like short one, when I really thought she could be the one... but then it all just fell apart, and I don't even know why, and I can say why she is doing what she is doing, but it's all crazy and childish to me.

Just act dumb about it, like your clueless, she really fools you and now you are over it. Obviously, she isn't if she had to start all these rumors about me... but like you say it was crazy shit anyway before it was over... now that it is over, you are just moving on, and you got no time for her games.

Within a few weeks it will all blow over and nobody will even care, they will write it off as a lover's spat.

[Curmudgeon]

You should take inspiration from the Duke of Wellington from history. When a high-class trollop told him she was going to write a tell-all about his private life with her in the past unless he paid her some money not to, he immediately replied, "Publish and be damned!"

https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/rear-window-when-wellington-said-publish-and-be-damned-the-field-marshal-and-the-scarlet-woman-1430412.html

[SakuraBlossoms87]

Do nothing. When someone comes up asking you about it, literally play dumb. Say you've no clue what she's going on about.

Even play on the fact that she's bitter YOU broke off the relationship because she's a bitter toxic person -- her behavior is after all classic toxic --- and spouting off lies.

Either way

She's doing you a favour.

Those "friends" of yours who are not really friends but hanging around because you may be wealthy & help with money issues, because you may be attractive & it boosts their shallow self image, etc --- basically those who are "fairweather" friends --- will get lost and relieve you from the burden of their existence.

Whereas those who are real friends and will realize what she is saying is in malice and may even view it as lies will remain.

[EmyyWolf]

Depends what secrets lol.

All your friends and family knows? Might as well tell us 🤣🤣

I mean if my man was to do this to me. I would just clap back 👏 and make rumors about him. Crazy insane rumors about him. WTF? Give them a taste of their own medicine. Stand up for yourself.
I would not only fight back with rumors. But also I’d LEAVE him. Why be with someone who’s gonna expose you and your privacy and is gonna be your enemy.

Your own partner/ lover/ wife/ husband. Is gonna be your enemy?
ABSOLUTELY NOT 🙅🏻‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️‼️‼️

ITS OVER!!! ‼️‼️‼️

[AviatorTom]

There's really not much you can do. And anything you could do might make the situation worse.

Don't do anything. People reveal secrets looking for a reaction. If they get none, they eventually give up.

[Paris13]

My EX Refers it to Veiled Threats. Your is More Like Over The Top By Actually Going Through With It... Begin a RUMOR ABOUT HER. xxoo

[Nirmroth]

I honestly would have reached out and told her that it bothers me and that she should stop but I don't know how your relationship is.

Nothing you can do now, that the cat is out of the sack. Could try to get the common friends on your side. Pretty trashy behaviour to tell secrets one entrusted you with.

[Anonymous]

I'd suggest that you seriously consider dropping any 'secrets' you have of hers on the biggest gossip you know in your 'friend group' and when she starts to call you, which she will, to complain about your telling her 'secrets' i suggest that you 'grey rock' her, If you do not know what that is take a look at this web page; https://psychcentral.com/health/grey-rock-method#does-it-work

[Peter_Penetrator]

Scorned women are just that.


There are plenty of failed relationships where one party or the other tries to smear the other.


I agree. Don’t lose your shit. Show frustration, pity, surprise and disbelief.


Now, if two of your ex’s tell the same stories, you’re screwed.

[Anonymous]

are these bad secrets? will this ruin your reputation secrets? i would hope you never make the mistake again to tell secrets to anyone else but your journal.

as for what you should do, do you have anything on her you can expose also? blackmail.

[Opinion Owner]

of course that would probably be childish. maybe it's best to stay quiet and just be like "she's crazy, don't even bother listening to her. i don't"

[jeffend888]

Well, see, this is what people do.

This is a big rule of life. If you don't want people to know something, don't tell them.

Anything you have ever said to anyone has been shared by someone. It's more guaranteed than death and taxes. Anything that has ever happened to you, people know about it. Anything you have ever said about someone behind their back has been shared out.

I figured you would have learned this by now.

[katiesmuff]

Well those are just things that happen after a break up and not much you can do about it.

[Starrrboy]

Laugh it out, people won't take it seriously and it'll become irrelevant.. or.. Just act like it never happened.

[DextroShade]

Unless she's still fucking you then you should not have contact with your ex. If she's airing your dirty laundry then you should also air hers.

[jjj101010]

Depends what kind of secrets they r, if it’s that u r an undercover spy then u might be in trouble. If it’s that u like her to do kinky shit in the bedroom, I’m sure u will live

[jahaims]

Those aren't your friends if they stay friends with her after that behavior. Those are her friends.

[robocop666]

Never reveal secrets to anyone unless you have more dirt on them

[Anonymous]

well i suppose that would be either a strangulation or throat slitting situation

[Adaeva]

So what? Nobody cares.

[BourbonAndBacon]

Take the high road. Karma is a bitch.

[Drumlin2001]

What's she telling people?

[TacosRAwesome]

Let her play herself.

[WhitneySnow]

Expose hers

[Cheerfull009]

Tell your friends, that is propoganda only