Context: I've been seeing this girl for 7 months, things are ok.. During the first few months we dated she was openly talking to having sex with an old flame (which I forgave), I have been delivering ever since, paying for dates buying gifts, emotional, physical, sexual.. Now things are better but recently she has been going through a lot, not very social relies on YouTube the majority of life undertanding and doesn't really go out to experience life for what it is and experience real life events have real life expectations.. she is telling me her job is too stressful and that I need to prove that I want to invest in her so she wants to quit work and have be basically support her until she "has found out what she is passionate about so she can give her gifts to the world, rather than find a less stressful job and take it step by step. I like her but im pretty confused. I have many friends in successful relationships and none of them seem to be going through this, she has no friends in successful relationships but for some reason believes her way of things is correct. What I want to do is figure out a way to communicate with her without losing my temper, I often do because her rationale seems pretty far-fetched and inherently unrealistic. I earn a decent wage I've been raised with good values and believe I offer quite a good package all in all. But when she has a bad day, she is quick to tell me I am not enough and not providing. I'm not one to give up at the first second or third hurdle I want her to try and incorporate a bit of rationality instead of every suggestion I make being grouped with me being a man and "go-getting" is in my DNA..
Ladies, help needed. What is your definition of a provider?
What Girls Said
She is using you dude. Plain and simple. She is at the point now where she wants to do nothing and have you support her. Honestly this girl sounds like a walking red flag to me. From what I can gather in the details it has been getting worse and worse. You need to talk to her and make her understand that it takes two people in a relationship. She cannot just be there and not contribute anything. This day in age that is not really possible unless you make tons of money which most of us don't.
Ridiculous. Dump her.
You are being used. Move on.