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I'm a very reclusive person who, due to a very traumatic childhood, has confidence and communication issues. So if by chance I've gotten a girls number I'm interested in, what is the best next move? It just feels like sometimes I'm not enough because I struggle in these departments.

I am not seeking validation otherwise, I would have posted a selfie and asked if you thought I was attractive. The truth is that I am not butt ugly and some girls will call me "okay" while others will say they have no attraction to me whatsoever. The reason I still can get girls is because I am okay looking, and some will settle for me. The thing is I am not a 6/10 or above. I am at best, a 5/10, on my best hair day.

The truth is that I persisted anyway, and I tried dating, regardless with optimism. I was cheated on, hit physically and ended up comparing myself with guys that I was left for. Yes, the girls I dated would leave me for other guys all the time. I remember the first time it happened, I cried, and I asked her, "is it because he is more attractive than me?" The girl told me, "Oh, stop. I am not answering that question." I still managed to regain confidence every time, but the same thing always happened. One girl told me, "It is like cars. I won't wash or take care of an ugly car." Because she broke up with me and took the new handsome guy camping with her own money. I asked her why she was treating him so much better than me and she responded with that car comparison. I also do not have a boring personality. I am fun, pretty smart and have a successful path laid out.

It has just been really rough, and I am at the point of just giving up. Maybe it is the girls I am dating? I will mention that I have only ever dated above my league so maybe I should date down instead?