"It usually ends because of distance and my work (I’m in the military). I’m pretty bitter because of this."
It's reasonable to feel frustration. But bitter? You are too young to be bitter.
"I’ve talked and dated girls both in real life and over the internet but most only last about 2-3 months" So you have been able to attract women but your military service makes things inconvenient?
"Some of my friends are grimy" You don't want to go there. That will only make you feel worse about yourself. Only a sociopath would feel good about doing that.
It's normal to date a number of people but have none of them last. I spend a year dating online with no luck. I had about seventeen first dates and no second dates. Then in January I met my wife.
It probably doesn't feel like it to you, but you are still very young. That's better than staying together because you feel you have no other option. Take heart. There will be other women. Keep doing whatever you do to meet them. Maybe try some new things too. Be patient. There's no hurry.
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Thanks for your service. What's your MOS?
The fact that you have managed to attract some women in the past to date you seems to indicate that you have the ability to attract women. It would seem that the demands of the military have come between you and a relationship. Perhaps when you are out, you can change things.
As far as not being a bitter incel, that is entirely up to you. I recommend you stay away from incel support groups as they tend to be echo chambers or worse, a place where the inmates are running the asylum.
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Actually yes, focus on yourself. Mainly don't label yourself as an incel.
In my mind I find celibacy more virtuous as it's harder to maintain.
I'd say that the main problem for you is that you're going for a specific subset of women that are primarily in not for a serious relationship, but are in it mainly to fuck around and or to find more "successful" men.
Stop looking for a quick fuck and search for love.
There's a certain form of wisdom that we're ignoring from various religions.Nevermind all this red pill blue pill black pill generalization bullshit. The right girl for you is out there. Don't be a piece of shit and you will eventually meet her, but you're not going to find her but sitting around complaining about it like a miserable bastard. If you don't go out and meet women, you won't find any. It's a numbers game. If you meet enough women, sooner or later you will find one that likes you. Women don't want a guy who brings them down so don't complain about shit when you're around them. You're not going to meet the perfect woman. Settle for one who is less than perfect, like yourself. Go find some women who are into the nerd stuff you like or something.
Somethings bleeding through your body language that's repelling them. When women like you they make eye contact & smile, that's usually the Q to approach. Also touch, woman don't touch men they don't like & go rigid if touched by him. Dealing with past trauma. Woman are going to test you constantly & if you have past trauma you haven't dealt with it bleeds through our body language & looks weak. Losing expectations is important, desperation drives woman away. They're naturally MUCH more adept reading this in people than average men.
I don't know what to say to you. I mean, this is your choice. Do you want to be a radicalized extremist?
Do you think you have the ability to choose for yourself?
The weird thing is how you guys always pretend to be helpless in your fate. You can choose to be a different person. You can choose to be good with women. You can choose to be more social and more connected.
You just have to practice.It's inevitable once you know the truth and take the red pill you can never go back to being a nice guy blue a pill.
You have two option take the black pill incel or become a red pill alpha and do what's best for you and out you first and better yourself.
Most people give up and take the black pill and become reclusive monk or hateful.
Red pill rage is realYet u know the reason relationships aren't working and has nothing to do with u but that they all become long-distance due to work so not sure what your looking for
Depends on what definition of incel are you going based on. What is your interpretation of an incel?
(I’m in the military)
Dude, that should get you some tang by itself.
Also, incel is a state of mind. You don't have to adopt it.Wait till you're not being bounced around so much by the military. Did you know there are also military singles dating sites? Give those a try.
If you feel you can't be happy with anyone then there's nothing involuntary about your your celibacy.
Think before you react
Stop being bitter, that's it honestly
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