Do you think I’m pushing myself too hard?

[Anonymous]

So my girlfriend and I are long distance. I’ve always had self image issues before because I think I’m ugly, but I get flirted so much by random girls, so some days I feel great but most of the time I just think I’m hideous. Ever since I was a kid, I had low confidence. Girls always picked every single guy before even thinking of me, and it killed my confidence growing up, watching girls you liked, always going after guys that didn’t care about them, or treated them right. Anyways, I’m now 25 years old, and I now get girls real easily, because I take really good care of myself. But I still feel like that same kid from high school. I now have a girlfriend that loves me, and I’m so grateful for her. I now push myself really hard to look good for her when I visit her. I always get nervous because I think if I don’t keep up on my image, she’ll leave me like those girls from high school. Even though I know she’ll love me not matter what. It’s just how my brain works. Self doubt. So I workout every single day for hours on end, on top of my already super psychically demanding job. I also spend so much money on clothes that I have more clothes than my two sisters and mom combined. I always look and try things thinking of what she might like on me, and I’m always not satisfied. I have shopping addiction for clothes. And I’m just wondering how I can quit.

[HelloSofi97]

Well, I guess eventually you’ll get to a point where you realize that regardless of what you have…if they want to walk away from you, they’ll do it. Knowing that, you accept yourself more for who you are without going above and beyond unnecessarily. Look good for yourself if it makes you feel good but don’t do too much for someone that may leave you one day.

[Anonymous]

You sound like you need counseling. Your behavior is typical of manic depressive moods. Sometimes you feel like a million bucks & sometimes you feel like crap but you honestly haven't done anything different to feel either way.

[Guy13]

Go get some sustained counseling

[Spiritofn]

Get a tattoo that says “retarted boss”