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I am 29 and never had a real girlfriend. I am extremely heartbroken because all my life I have always wanted a girlfriend. I have always wanted a woman whom I can be affectionate and intimate with.

As I watch my peers get married, I just feel very late. Me and a woman can never say we knew each other when we were young. There is so much missed time. I am grown now and approaching my 30s. It just doesn't feel the same.

Meanwhile, I feel like I would be giving my heart to a woman who has loved someone when she was young and got to experience her youth with someone else. Something that I can never say we get to experience. On top of that, I have to deal with the fact she has loved other boys and men before me and made love to them before. I will be some subsequent lover that if she ever lost me, it wouldn't be anything new to her and there is no sweat off her back. It just doesn't seem fair at all.

I am starting to get too old for much younger women. I am starting to become unattractive to 18, 19, and early 20s women due to my age. I feel I am left with women that have too much baggage, and before long, I will be lucky to even find a woman that has never been divorced or has kids from a previous marriage.

In an effort to get me to do something, my wife said I needed to do it, because "frankly, there are some guys in the office that seem like they would be a lot of fun to fuck."

Naturally, she claims this was a joke and refuses to apologize for it. She says it wasn't meant to be taken seriously. And claims it's insulting I would react to it, because it implies something about her.

While I don't think she was actually threatening to sleep with her office mates, I didn't think it was funny either. In fact, it infuriated me. When she said it, of course my mind immediately pondered "Who the heck is she talking about?" / "Is there some truth to this joke?" / "Do I have to be worried about this now?" / etc. After all, something or someone cause the so-called joke popped in her head.

I thought it was disrespectful, in poor taste, and out of line. And I can't help but think had I done the same thing, I would have been absolutely raked over the coals for the rest of the week.

Yet, she's defiant that I'm overreacting and refuses to apologize.

So, am I overreacting? It's not that I can't handle the fact that my wife would find someone else attractive at work. I get that. I find women at my office attractive. But I would never ever think it appropriate to tell my wife, "You know, you should really pick up the kid today because the next firm outing is around the corner and, man, some of the women we just hired make me have second thoughts about our marriage."