My girlfriend is terrified of finding someone else, does that mean she never really loved me and is actively looking for someone else?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend keeps telling me how scared she is that she will find someone else. In my mind, if she's thinking this then does she really want me? If she were to find someone else does that mean that she never truly loved me? She's always been scared of finding someone else, I just thought that she only wanted me and that finding someone else would never be a thought or concern.

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18 d

We broke up 6 months ago, I'm so much happier now and I've met someone new

[Anonymous]

So she keeps reiterating that you’re replaceable and you just shake it off and keep trucking? She’s not terrified of finding someone else, she’s confessing that at any given time she will drop you like a hot potato and scared you will leave her to her loneliness before that time comes. Idc how much I love a person, they only have ONE time to tell me they’re afraid to find someone else and it’s over, because why the hell are they looking in the first place?

[Asker]

She's mentioned it a couple times throughout our relationship and it's bothered me and I don't know how to go about explaining that it bothers me. It just makes me mad

[Opinion Owner]

That’s not even just maddening it’s just wrong all around. Be straight with her and say that you’re not cool with her saying this as much as she has. You
need to be able to talk to her not walk on egg shells.

[OlderAndWiser]

She is telling you to not get too attached because she wants to keep her options open and not feel guilty about using you now.

[strateguy632]

correct. let her find someone else while you find someone who wants you.

[jahaims]

She's using you