My boyfriend broke up with me after a miscommunication, what can I do? Please read the details? And please don't be rude! Thank you?

[Anonymous]

So it's a relatively new relationship we've been together for 1 month and at the moment we are long distance but we've met earlier. So everything started when he asked me the question "why did you decide to give me a chance?" To which I replied " The quality that I feel I find interesting is I felt that you're a good person (but yeah I know we didn't know each other well) however that's what I felt, and that's why I thought it's right to give myself a chance to get to know you better." After this he started to be rude and started to say that it's like we are just casual friends and so on and I asked if I can call him so we can talk on call but he denied and blocked me. Although he didn't block me anywhere else. This happened around 2 weeks ago, and around 1 week ago I send him a text saying I wish to communicate when he's comfortable etc he didn't give me a positive reply to it and again I texted something like "if you're open to it id like to have a convo, I value our connection, if you're willing please let me know" which he marked 'seen' but didn't respond for 2 to 3 days and after 3 days he just said something like "I hope now it's clear that we are not meant for each other", I replied to this asking if he could share his thoughts on why we aren't meant for each other and if I got a chance that wouldn't be my choice at all. Sorry this is quite long but I'm not sure what I did wrong here, am I at wrong? I don't know what part of my response was extreme that he had to respond that way? I do like him infact I do love him , we haven't shared those words to each other since I was waiting for him to say it first but I do love him though but im so confused , can someone please tell me ig I'm the one who is at fault here?

[ProbablyClueless]

This is probably going to sound like really unhelpful, "no shit" sort of advice, but I've been in your position before and I've found that there's basically nothing you can do besides give the person space and respect their decision. He has decided, for god only knows what reason, that you wouldn't be a good match and it's obvious that he isn't willing to meet you half way to compromise on whatever he thinks is going on; that's a major character flaw of his on display. He's telling you who he is right now, and my experience has been that it's a good idea to believe people when they tell you that stuff the first time.

I went through a similar situation with a girl I'd been talking with for about a year. She just randomly decided one day that whatever I thought I developed with her was based on a lie. She felt that she had not been honest with me, that I didn't really know her, and she flat out refused to start being honest with me. To this day, I have absolutely no idea what she lied about, nor do I have any idea why she didn't feel like our connection was worth following up on. I would love to know, but I'm pretty sure I never will. The best I can come up with is that the chick may have just been a weirdo

I told you all that because it seems like you're in a situation where you want a sense of clarity about what's going on when your answer might be a lot simpler than you expect; the guy might just be a nutcase. I hate to say it, but a lot of single people are single for a reason.

[Asker]

Actually this is helpful because I'm literally so confused and I feel your answer is a possibility. And I feel that you're right he most probably is a weirdo since he just thinks he's right without even trying to communicate and isn't even being willing to Actually talk thinking he's absolutely right and even came to the conclusion that we are not meant for each other while I'm over here so confused about everything. I feel your situation with the girl is quite similar to mine because I too, have no idea what happened and wish to know what was the reason for all of it. Thank you so much for responding, it's helpful to know others perspective

[ProbablyClueless]

I'm glad you felt my answer helped! Sometimes it's tough to recognize when you're dealing with an insane person

[Asker]

Yes, insane people can drive anyone crazy but I'm not sure if he's insane though. This has been my state since the past 2 weeks and since he's just ignored my messages asking if we could talk (which is the bare minimum), I don't even know at this point what I should expect. He hasn't blocked me. I'm even thinking if all along I was just in love with a red flag like wth.

[boggboss]

U essentuly said u are with him to play it safe because he is nice its not a great reason

[boggboss]

Equally how he is reacting is pretty immature so it dont seem u are going to miss out on much

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your response , actually i didn't meant that I was with him to play it safe, but my dumb self typed that sentence and pressed sent. I did like him for a very long time. But I think it doesn't matter much anymore.

[boggboss]

Yeah it dont look like it will as shitty as it happened I will say honestly he didn't seem like a good guy his response was crazy extream even if he felt insulted by what u said his inability to hurt be level headed is silly

[Asker]

Yeah I felt he was on the immature side because declining to talk about an issue just says that. I mean there are obviously no problems in a relationship which doesn't have a solution the exception maybe cheating or lying though.