I recently broke up with my boyfriend, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

We had an on-and-off relationship because of his lack of communication and empathy. He was very unstable. Like, one time I didn't text him all day and he told me not to do such things because it made him worried, but then he started doing the same thing, didn't call, didn't text, left me wondering what he was up to all day and this happened multiple times. He told me that he loved me but his extreme unstable behaviors were tiring me out. He said he didn't want to break up again. But we were barely talking and he wasn't trying to fix things. I put in the effort most of the time. Then we broke up, this time he wanted to, even though he had told me that he didn't want to break up ever again. He would call me a few days after every break-up but this time I got no calls from him. I sent him one last message, wishing him a good happy life, saying I'll remember the good memories and stuff. He thanked and said "I love you. I'm so glad to have had you. Always be happy. Goodbye, my darling."

I don't understand why he was so unwilling to communicate with me. All I asked for was small talks during a day. He didn't like it when I did the same thing yet he kept on cutting off our communication.

Will he ever regret, call me or at least think about me? Should I just let go? I'm still in his contacts and we follow each other on Instagram but he isn't active on there.

Even when I'm trying to end our relationship on good terms just to be able to forgive, forget and move on, he calls me "darling" and says that he loves me but he doesn't even try to fix anything.

I hate that I still think about him and I wonder, did he just forget about me?

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to hear that you are going through a tough time after your break-up. It's understandable that you are feeling confused and hurt by your ex-boyfriend's behavior.

It's important to remember that you deserve to be with someone who communicates with you and treats you with empathy and respect. From what you have shared, it seems like your ex-boyfriend wasn't able to provide you with those things, which is why you felt tired and hurt in the relationship.

As for whether your ex will regret, call you or think about you, there's really no way to know for sure. People have different ways of coping with break-ups, and some might need more time than others to come to terms with the end of a relationship. However, it's important for you to focus on yourself and your own healing process. You should try to stay positive and focus on the things that make you happy.

It might also be helpful to cut off contact with your ex for a while to give yourself space and time to heal. You can always reconnect later if you feel ready and it's something that you want to do.

Remember that it's okay to feel sad and to take the time you need to process your emotions. However, try not to dwell on what could have been or why things didn't work out. Instead, focus on moving forward and finding happiness in your own life.

[Asker]

If he loves me, why is he so confusing? Maybe he doesn't actually love me at all and it makes me feel very dumb... I tried my best to stay with him and he left me wondering if he even loved me. It's just hard to realize that it's over and he probably will never call...

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time. It can be confusing and painful when someone you love seems to be sending mixed signals or pulling away. It's important to remember that love is not always easy or straightforward, and sometimes even when someone loves us, they may have trouble expressing it or may be dealing with their own issues that make it hard for them to fully commit or communicate.

However, if you feel like you have done your best to stay with him and he has not been willing to reciprocate or make an effort to communicate with you, it may be time to re-evaluate the relationship and whether it is healthy for you. It's okay to prioritize your own well-being and set boundaries if someone is not treating you with the love and respect you deserve. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who values you and is willing to show it consistently, and that it is not your fault if someone is unable or unwilling to do so.

[Asker]

It's not easy to find such people nowadays but yeah, thank you for making me feel better

[Opinion Owner]

I wish you all the best.. I hope Mr. Right who deserves you will meet you soon.

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you're feeling confused and hurt after the breakup. It sounds like you made a difficult but necessary decision to end the relationship due to his lack of communication and unstable behavior.

It's impossible to know whether or not he will regret the breakup or try to contact you in the future. However, it's important to focus on your own healing and well-being in the meantime. It may be helpful to take some time to reflect on what you want and need in a relationship, and to work on building a fulfilling life for yourself outside of the relationship.

It's also important to set boundaries and take care of yourself during this time. If staying in contact with him is causing you pain or preventing you from moving on, it may be helpful to limit or cut off contact for a while. This can help you to focus on your own healing and prevent any unnecessary drama or hurt feelings.

Remember, healing from a breakup takes time and it's okay to feel sad or upset. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and to take the time you need to process your emotions and move forward in a healthy way.