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Last year I moved to a new city and starting hanging out with an acquaintance and her friends group. In this group there was the cutest boy and there was quite a spark, from his behavior I would have guessed it was mutual. However the group dynamic was very heavy, it turned out that many girls in the group were after him and in particular my acquaintance was obsessed with him. One day I noticed she overheard us talking about going for a drink just the two of us and after that she never invited me again to join the group for months. At the same time, he became very cold with me and eventually stopped replying to my messages, and I now suspect it was her who told him lies about me. Lately I had an enlightening talk with her best friend who told me that she was behaving completely crazy with him and that she was literally stalking him (picking him up at work etc) and that he was so mad at her that he left the group and ghosted everyone in it to cut ties with her completely.

I had moved on as I really thought he had stopped talking to me because I was annoying him. Recently I met a cute boy but since he’s in my life, all my brain is able to do is comparing him with this other boy and think that he was the right one. I don’t know if I should try to get back in contact with him.

I met this guy on tinder and we got talk and liked each other, we finally decided to see and for a while he wanted to be around me all the time and he wants to cook for me and all, we went grocery shopping together and he even slept at my place but we were not an item (neither did we get intimate) I told him I want to get to know him and not rush into anything and he agreed too. So there was this day I needed to get shoes and he said he wants to go with me and when we got to the shop I picked the two shoes I wanted and he paid and I asked asked if he was ok cause I notice he was a bit different and then we got back home he was mad about the fact that I made him pay for the shoes. I specifically told him I don’t want you to pay yet you went ahead to pay and now you are blaming me? I got so mad cause he was being manipulative but we settled it that night. It became an issue over and over again, he complained of how expensive the shoes are and how he is now broke, so I I decided to cook and invite him to eat since he is broke, but I got tired of him bringing it up so I told him after a long week or two of bringing it up that he should give me his details and I would send the money, he threw his card on my face (landed on my eyes) that I should send the money, I told took his details and I told him to get out and of my house and he was begging but I had to be calm cause he was being violent before he started begging and I was scared, I faked setting with him so I wouldn’t be beat up and we was all lovey dovey before he left my place and then he called days later to have conversations with me and I told him this can’t work cause he is a bit violent and disrespectful with words and then he said “shut the f**k up you dumb bitch* I ended the call and blocked him everywhere, he reached out not long ago that I should pay for the shoes and less I forget I have him on video saying I shouldn’t pay for the shoes that they are gifts before we had the fight.