I 27F was raised quite conservatively (only child of pastor, homeschooled). Recently I changed my views on several things although unknown to them, however I did decide to move out to gain some freedom. I’ve had an apartment an hr away for about 1.5 years.
Still though I behave more secretly when it comes to my parents such as going out later after they call and tell me goodnight or trying to conceal anything that they’d find offensive. About a month ago my mom found “contraband” at my place such as condoms, birth control, and a joint. They actually talked to me rather civilly and expressed their concerns about my spiritual health.
There are some questions mom will ask and others not. She has probed into my drinking habits, but not sexual history. I think she is afraid to ask. However, a positive thing is that I did start dating one guy.
Yes we have sex & sleepover. But I’m not open with my mom about any of that. I think she knows in a way, bc she knows his dog has slept over and peed the bed etc but won’t ask if he stayed there
We’ve been together four months now, and would like to see more of each other, including sleeping over more often. But don’t forget I’m an only child. My mom also find it hard to trust people and make friends and she and dad have more of a platonic relationship. So I’m basically her world. It has gotten better in some senses but she still expects a lot of time (3-4 nights a week). It can be like I am dating mom and my boyfriend.
Sometimes she will also be sad or like I hurt her feelings &she doesn’t like to be left alone. But it is a frustration to my relationship such as last night when I’d intended to have my boyfriend sleep over and she invited herself to stay the night only saying “unless I’m not welcome” ofc I’m not gon be rude but if I didn’t invite her there’s a reason. I try my best not to say he’s sleeping over bc then she’d act worse. Part of me even wonders if she invited herself bc she thought he was staying help…
