Background information: I was in a ldr with a guy from a different country. We were together for 8 months until I found out he cheated on me. He denied of course and I broke things off with him. It was the right thing to do
Ever since the breakup we've been still keeping communication here and there. He would reach out to me. Naturally, I responded back because I still care and love him. He's my first love it's hard to forget about him. Lately, when I think I am moving on and forgetting about him he messages me and we FaceTime; thus, those feelings come back.
I ask him why won't he let me go and his answer is, I always want to hear from you and I never want to stop communication, and I hope to see you again.
I had this conversation with his older sister a long time ago and she told me how he can't find someone else like me and I'll always be an important special person to him
I just don't know what to do in this situation. Thoughts?
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Ah man, that's a tough situation. Breakups are never easy, especially a first love from an LDR.
From the sounds of it, even though he messed up, a part of him still cares about you deep down. And you still care about him too or else his messages wouldn't get to you, ya know?
The way I see it, you gotta do what's best for YOU going forward, not what's convenient for him. As much as it hurts, keeping in contact probably isn't letting either of you fully heal and move on.
Maybe have one last honest talk, let him know you need a clean break to fully get over things. Blocking him everywhere might be the cleanest way, even if it's hard at first.
In time, both your feelings will fade. But staying hooked in like this will only prolong the pain. You deserve someone willing to be fully loyal to you, without any doubts.
Chin up - I know it's rough now, but focusing on yourself and your happiness is the best revenge. You got this!
You are good so ofcourse everyone would like to have good things with them. But when you are good why do you deserve to be with someone bad someone eho isn't deserving you?