Why won't he give me a chance?

Question

My friend C and I meet each other at this summer job. We did talk but not much but when the summer ended he got my number and started texting me. He is a really sweet, fun and handsome. His family lives here but he goes to a university 3 hours away. He has admitted to really liking me and I like him too. So I decided to get the courage to ask him out and he said I would love to go out with you but you live far. He said he's been in a long distance relationship for two years and it was hard. He still tells me he really likes me but why won't he give me a chance more like give us a chance. Why won't he let us give it a shot and who knows maybe it will work out? Why won't he give me a chance?

rachiee · Accepted Answer

He already told you why he doesn't want to start anything with you. Its because of the distance. Its sounds like he has had bad experiences with long distant relationship in the past and isn't looking for another one right now. Basically it sounds like he's completely turned off by the idea of having another relationship like that that he isn't willing to give it another try. Honestly I think you need to just leave it be and look for other guys. If you keep trying to talk to him and convince him that it will work then you'll end up pushing him away. Continue to text him and talk to him as a friend but pull yourself back because chances are you'll end up hurt. If things are meant to be then they'll work themselves out in the end.

willytheg · Accepted Answer

Have you gotten the vibe that he's romantically or just platonically interested in you. He might have a thing going on at college that he's not telling you about. If you can have the patience, wait & see what he does now rather than pressuring him. If you back off and he seems hurt, maybe it could be that the distance bothers him or he's been in a relationship where distance has killed it before. I thought I could maintain a 5 hour drive relationship. Didn't work.

PhantomTT · Accepted Answer

What Rachiee said pretty much covers it. When I guy says "I would go out with you but you live to far" that's exactly what he means. He's saying how he feels. Try not to read between the lines, you'll drive yourself nuts, there's no hidden message there. Long Distance relationships can be difficult.. especially trying one after your last one didn't work out..

Consider you touch a burner on a stove.. You got hurt.. You might be reluctant to try it again.