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My girlfriend and I had a fight on Christmas. The reason we had a fight is because I got kicked out of my house on Christmas, and had to stay with my buddy. Being humiliated about the situation I lied and said my buddy was having a Christmas gathering late at night.

She knew I was lying and assumed I was cheating, so I told her the truth, and she still didn’t believe me. Instead she verbally abused me for an hour then calmed down. Once she calmed down, she said I could come to her if I need a place to stay. Since then, she’s been ghosting me.

We had New Year’s Eve plans and I don’t even know if we’re still together. My stuff is at her house and I have a key to her house. I can’t get a hold of her. Should I just go to her house?

If you're single and the *only* partners you could possibly ever get, would be abusive, disrespectful, unfaithful, or otherwise not treat you with proper respect, and you refuse to be with someone like that and are sad to be alone because of that, would that still be considered being picky/entitled?

As in, you could be with someone and have a relationship with them, but these people would only ever be mean to you, disrespectful, polyamorous (cheating), expect you to pay them money constantly in order for them to stay with you, would not consider you a good partner, etc. They'd be using/exploiting you, but at least you'd still be with someone.

If someone chooses not to be with someone like that, are they considered picky/entitled? Or is that fair? (This applies to both genders in such a situation, but likely applies more so to men, for obvious reasons.)

I'm asking this in full good faith. I do know know what you'd call this.

People cheat. Sometimes people cheat on good people for almost no reason. Most people will bend the internal morality of their actions around their wants and desires. People will swear on their grandmothers grave they’d never sleep with somebody after meeting them once, and then shock themselves by sleeping with THAT person when they eventually encounter them.

Love is essentially transactional, not just monetarily but emotionally and physically. Sometimes people just don’t want to be with you any more. Looks are a MASSIVE part of attraction. Comfort kills attraction. Your partner is not yours, it’s just your turn.(MOST relationships will end sooner or later). Most people believe they’re more righteous and principled than they are. Morality has nothing to do with arousal. Both genders are struggling to find fulfilling partners because one side has grown weak and one side is now free to select for what they want which is the best of the best. Certain immutable traits are key. Most relationships after a couple of years are routine and not sexually fulfilling. People are nowhere near as unique in their behaviour as they think they are.

Is everyone out there trying to use, break hearts and cheat? NO. Most human beings are very much looking and trying consciously to attain and build the perfect, unconditional, long lasting loving relationship. That’s their conscious motive. But life is life and it truly hits people harder and at weirder angles than they could possibly have anticipated. Good sweet innocent people surprise themselves. The righteous fall. Most are not as strong or as selfless as they think. Those who believe they deserve the world can only actually attain very little. There is no such THING as deserve, there is, isn’t, won’t, will and can and can’t.

To simply DENY all this stuff is a product of either lack of exposure or choosing to deny. Which is fine.