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As of recently, my popularity has dwindled on the dating apps & I’m unsure of the exact cause. Is it my age? As I look the same & I haven’t moved yet things went downhill a few months ago. I mainly use hinge & noticed this drought on all the other apps too, which makes me even more worried considering it seems to be across all platforms. Because of this, I’ve also been second guessing my decision to brush off the guys that previously showed interest in me. At the time I was somewhat interested in a few but either I wasn’t in the mood/doubtful because of negative dating app experiences I dealt with at that time/was too anxious. I question if I genuinely feel regret because this is a delayed reaction or if I’m reminiscing/liking the idea of them since things aren’t going my way at the moment. How can someone be told they’re “attractive” yet quality guys NEVER show them interest in person? If I got attention from these guys from the apps in person, maybe I wouldn’t be as anxious.

29F & I’ve always had this type of deep rooted anxiety when it comes to relationships, I’ve always been a loner & not the friendliest I suppose, to the point where I’m currently content with online/gamer “friends”. There’s this part of me though, that struggles with knowing I’ll never find romantic love. I’m very sure I’m only romantically attracted to men but in a way, I question at times if I really want to be with one long term. Let’s start with: I’m not very affectionate, I don’t trust easily, I get turned off quickly by “innocent” cocky or conceited banter, I’m very antsy about intimacy & not crazy about sex/masturbation to begin with. These might all seem like cop outs because I truly feel the right person will change how I feel about all these “issues”. As a woman I don’t think it’s that rare to not really have much of a sex drive, I keep hearing stories about other women in the same boat that meet their husbands & realize they weren’t “asexual” after all.

During some conversations he starts fidgeting or rubbing his arms nervously… but only sometimes. And a few months ago he saw me in person and got very nervous and started shaking. Other than that… the only other sign of attraction I’ve noticed is that he mirrors me quite a bit… picking up his coffee cup to take a sip when I do it…. Not sure if he’s naturally an awkward man or whether he’s attracted? But in groups of people he doesn’t seem awkward and looks more relaxed… so maybe I have an effect on him? But he also hasn’t made a move on me. Maybe he feels awkward because someone told him I like him? I dunno. Also another thing to note is that I’m more conventionally attractive than he is, so maybe he’s intimidated? I’m not sure. Also his face looks a bit red around me sometimes but I can’t tell whether he’s flushed for another reason or it’s just lighting etc.