There are a lot, but is it because I'm picky, or just have self-respect?
People who don't respect my boundaries turn me off. So this includes anyone who is physically or emotionally abusive, manipulative. Those who attempt to control me. This is unfortunately quite common. People often get away with controlling others because many people are susceptible to wanting others to like them, and they use that desire for acceptance or weaponize emotions or sexual attraction to manipulate. When they try it on me, it mostly just disgusts me.
Monogamy is a good example, but I should clarify. I have 100% zero objections to someone wanting to be monogamous, but that's not what most women who say they are monogamous mean. What they actually mean is they want to control their partner's choices, which I don't want anything to do with. I prefer autonomy, thanks!
Some other behaviors such as nicotine use or abundant use of other drugs turn me off, but I don't know if you would qualify those as "qualities". Speaking of quality, one thing I find especially ironic and off-putting is when people think much more highly of themselves than is warranted (arrogance). It's one thing for someone who is accomplished, intelligent, kind, &c. to have some pride and self-esteem. It's quite another for an otherwise unremarkable person to have an overconfident attitude and act as though others are beneath them.
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It would immediately turn me all the way off if she…
Is a feminist
Is a leftist
Is a democrat
Is a liberal
Has any mental disorder
Is a fan of lgbtq
Is interested in sex
Is the type who goes to clubs and bars
Is a Satanist
Is anti Christian
Is atheist
Has children
Wants children
Wants marriage
Wants open relationships
Is bisexual or any other ridiculous sexuality that honestly shouldn’t exist
Uses the term “cis” or “cisgender”
To name a few…
A guy that does not understand others or does not want to understand others or does not try to understand others. Another thing is a guy that thinks it's okay to abandon his duties or obligations or morals if he is under stress or in a bad mood. I know one guy who told people bad things about me that he thought were true and then when he realized he made a mistake and the things he said about me were incorrect, he was too embarrassed to go to the people he slandered me too and tell them he was mistaken and I'm not the bad things he said I was. To this day I have less than 2 friends left from that period in time cause of the gossip about me that was dishonestly manufactured by liars.
Smoking, excessive drinking, excessive cussing, racist, misogynist, liar, cheater, lazy, won't work, mean & nasty, judgmental, cruel, impatient, immature, slob, Momma's boy that's still connected hip & thigh, controlling, yells/screams a lot, puts others down, selfish, stingy, bad hygiene, unclean/untidy, smells bad, bad breath, addict, no drive/motivation, talks bad about people, don't treat his Momma & elders right, tells personal business, wasteful, prideful, stubborn, closed minded, always looking for a way to get out of doing things rather than just knocking it out & being done & narcissist.
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I get turned off by guys that are;
1. Disrespectful - Rude to people …let’s add arrogant to this list
2. Dirty /Smelly - Does not take care of himself
3. No ambitions - does not want to make a meaningful contribution to his life…..
4. Not independent - You gotta be stable enough to get the shit done for yourself……I hate it when a guy uses you too much…. like what do you got to offer too? Like bring something to the table……I honestly can deal with a lot of things. But The biggest turn off to me is a man who doesn’t provide. I mean- I grew up with men who were taught to take care. Then I started to be around other men and realized some people were not taught to be like that.
For example, I went on a date and during the lunch the guy made a comment that he likes when he doesn’t have to take care of the bill alone. Not in that exact way but something along those terms. I told him cool and we split the bill. Call me what u want, but I know there is a man who would’ve not made that comment and actually paid the whole bill with no issue. I’m not judging that man because i work and can provide for myself. But if I had to choose, I’m going to choose the type of guy that has more in common with how I grew up. To each his own.I'll just flip this. If a man listens and considers then he is adaptable. It was lack either and: pass. Anything is possible with those two things.
A woman obviously needs these also. But a relationship is two people merging their entire lives. It takes work. You need the tools to make that possible.
Video games, smoking (including vapes), drinking, emotional immaturity, having a history of open relationships or threesomes, being rude to restaurant servers, not having a good relationship with his family (unless his family is horrible), dressing sloppily, mama's boy, Andrew Tate follower, Alt-Right or Left politics, doesn't like pets, bros before hoes mindset, addict, watches porn, doesn't know who is/what he wants, doesn't have drive, inauthenticity, close-minded.
1. Smoking
2. Tats
3. Swearing
4. Has male friends that are dirtbags
5. Has no goals, no ambition, no accomplishments
I would make an exception for all of the above if I were getting a quickie blowjob from a woman I would never see again. Sometimes, a guys wants to have a skank.
Excessive alcohol drinker
Toxic addict
Germaphobic or squeamish
Aggressive and violent
when it is gossipy
Presumption and arrogance
she treats his parents badly
selfishness and narcissism
Laziness
Has no desire to work
gold digging
Smoking weed/cigs regularly
Has kids
Poly
Trans
Uses pronouns other than she/her
septum piercing
Braces
Dyed hair
Wants to be treated like princess or worship the ground she walks on
Wants me to spoil her
very strong political viewsthe cheater type... you know that type who wpuld cheat. usually men who are indecisive are the cheater type because when you love you just love
Mainly, racist, homophobic, treats others badly, obviously if they cheat, if they are not engaging, too quiet, not up to going running, or at least exercise of some description.
stupidity, faked or toxic behaviors, lack of personal hygiene, extremist opinions, violence, swearing, addictions, lack of respect
Physically, there are really only two major characteristics that are likely to turn me off -- if she's very thin or she has a huge nose.
nth turned me off with my current boyfriend
but with ex in past, the way he lies, delusional n verbally aggressive used to turn me off
Mainly rudeness or unkindness, and immaturity.
Slutty past, lies, cheated in the past, doesn't want to be my boyfriend right away lol.
Her being promiscuous, being a feminist, not wanting kids and choosing a career over family
Disrespectful behavior. Immediate shutdown when that s**t occurs.
Bitterness, bigotry, sexism, racism, no sense of humor, poor or no taste in music, lack of communication skills.
Rudeness, being high maintenance, being an actual Nazi or commie or other totalitarian, being a bigot.
Smoking/Vaping, and personality, especially the latter a toxic personality will over ride any physical attraction.
Constantly being negative and being rude to other people
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