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Years ago I briefly dated a former stripper. She might of done some “side work” but it was never confirmed. But I wouldn’t be surprised if she did.

After getting into long conversations with her she was actually much smarter than I expected. She was of course extremely beautiful. She was one of the top 3 most attractive women I had ever slept with in my life.

Ironically she came from a good family but she was the “problem child”. She wanted to date me seriously but she didn’t have a steady work nor any plans to go back to college (she dropped out). She also had problems with excessive marijuana use and experimenting with other harder drugs

I didn’t want a relationship but I did care for her. I was willing to just stay platonic friends and help her recover. I saw the potential if she reformed. But she didn’t accept that. I also inadvertently made a very stupid insulting comment after we had sex one time (and said wow you are so tight). I regretted saying that. I would of apologized if we talked again.

Anyway I followed her IG for a long time. She has now been sober from all drugs for 2 years. She also got several of her tattoos removed and she is going back to college. I don’t expect her to let me “accept” her idea of dating steadily at this point. But if she was were she was at now vs where she was 5 years ago I would of definitely considered it. But at the time I think she saw me as a “safety net nice guy”. Also I just bought my own house and she figured she might be get free rent if she moved in. But she was a mess at the time and was it really my job to reform her?

I don't believe in starting relationships soon after meeting, because what starts rapidly, usually ends rapidly as well. In my opinion:


FIRST STEP: You need around six months of platonic friendship, to know the other person. If you can maintain a platonic friendship for that long, it means you genuinely like the other person.

SECOND STEP: You need a mutually satisfactory physical relationship, where you know what the other person needs and wants, and if you can provide exactly that.

THIRD STEP: You need an emotional understanding. You need to be able to understand the difference between, what the other person says they need and want VS what they actually need and want.




IMPORTANT NOTES:

. Relationships that start with the third step, most often lead to excessive conflicts between the partners. Partners will eventually feel like the other partner is unpredictable, and cannot be trusted or relied upon.

. Relationships that start with the second step, most often lead to a lack of tolerance between the partners. Meaning, after a few months, the partners realize that they don't really like the other partner.

. Relationships that start step three before step two, most often lead to cheating or cheating-like behaviours, from one or both of the partners.

. If you are not naturally progressing from one step to the next step, than the connection is not meant to go further.