My guy friend is dating another girl and likes her but has given me many signals of interest? why?

[Anonymous]

Last night he held my hand and rubbed it which is not platonic behaviour. He was drunk.

[MrOracle]

First of all, people who are drunk often do inappropriate things. The first thing that goes when you are drinking is your judgement, followed quickly by your respect for boundaries. As such, you should always keep in mind that being around guys who are drunk is always at least a little bit dangerous, and it could be much worse than that at times.

Second, as a rule (there are a few rare exceptions), men don't have female "friends." Men have:

• women they want a relationship with - and this is a tiny percentage
• women they want casual sex (only!) with
• women they have no interest in at all

It's possible your in the first group, but it's a lot more likely that you're in the second group, and if you are, it's essentially impossible to get into the first group once placed in the second. But, notice, there is no category for "just friends" - that's not a category that exists for most men.

[Anonymous]

He's keeping his options open.

[Asker]

Do you think I should write him off.

[Opinion Owner]

If that is your gut feeling, than cut him off.

[spartan55]

You are 30 years old and you can't figure this out?