So this is my story. I want an honest opinion, especially from guys and/or people in a similar situation.
A year ago I had an emotional affair with a co-worker. We were both in long term relationships. I didn't want to physically cheat, so I turned him down in that way. It ended b/c he said he wanted to go back to give his relationship a shot. We casually texted over the year, I tried to be friends. But eventually he pulled away.
I should say I developed feelings for that guy, and I hinted him about it. I always suspected he's narcissistic, so I wondered if he pulled away b/c he was "done with me". He won me.
I took time to heal. He went on a trip I hadn't seem for a month and a half. It was great! I stopped replying to him, and being nice / friendly to him, b/c he hurt me so much over the course of this year.
So he came back from this trip and announced in our group chap with some mutual friends that he wants to get a quick drink and share life update. I thought he was getting married. I didn't go for a drink but of course I found out what the update was. He broke up with his long term girlfriend, and started dating another co-worker. Apparently he started dating her a week BEFORE he officially broke up with his girlfriend. I knew this new girlfriend of his had a crush on him so she followed his on this trip.
Maybe a considence but he messaged me about something work related that same day they went on a dinner date with this new girl. He hasn't done it in months. Coincidence? Or is he trying to hurt me? Prove something?
I'm very hurt. We always talked how if we both were single, we would be together. My boyfriend moved across country and we're doing long distance, but open relationship.
So my questions are – do you think it's rebound relationship? How do I stop being jealous? How do i forget about him? Is he just trying to get his self esteem back by using this girl? How do I let go of this emotional attachment?
Thanks.
A year ago I had an emotional affair with a co-worker. We were both in long term relationships. I didn't want to physically cheat, so I turned him down in that way. It ended b/c he said he wanted to go back to give his relationship a shot. We casually texted over the year, I tried to be friends. But eventually he pulled away.
I should say I developed feelings for that guy, and I hinted him about it. I always suspected he's narcissistic, so I wondered if he pulled away b/c he was "done with me". He won me.
I took time to heal. He went on a trip I hadn't seem for a month and a half. It was great! I stopped replying to him, and being nice / friendly to him, b/c he hurt me so much over the course of this year.
So he came back from this trip and announced in our group chap with some mutual friends that he wants to get a quick drink and share life update. I thought he was getting married. I didn't go for a drink but of course I found out what the update was. He broke up with his long term girlfriend, and started dating another co-worker. Apparently he started dating her a week BEFORE he officially broke up with his girlfriend. I knew this new girlfriend of his had a crush on him so she followed his on this trip.
Maybe a considence but he messaged me about something work related that same day they went on a dinner date with this new girl. He hasn't done it in months. Coincidence? Or is he trying to hurt me? Prove something?
I'm very hurt. We always talked how if we both were single, we would be together. My boyfriend moved across country and we're doing long distance, but open relationship.
So my questions are – do you think it's rebound relationship? How do I stop being jealous? How do i forget about him? Is he just trying to get his self esteem back by using this girl? How do I let go of this emotional attachment?
Thanks.
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