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I think the most awkward is inbetween. So like when someone says kinda cliche date-like questions but is also very uncomfortable with the situation. Rather than either being very much in their element in dating, or taking it slow.

For me I prefer to be friends first so even if I ask soneobe out or vice herds, I do best in the friendly realm initially. I think of dating as ‘friendship with potential’. So I would not date someone I wasn’t friends with but I also do not automatically switch gears if we are dating.

I understand this is not ideal for many snd rewuires a lot of patience for something that might go no where. I’m not in a rush for any kind of relationship so this gives me some flexibility , I suppose.

Brief Update on situation with the guy of the “ based in the recent 5 posts…” series 😂

****We met up today but I kept it very normal like how we used to be when we were friends. We mostly played basket ball. Talked a bit. But normally. It went well was more natural & he did not weirdly randomly try to kiss or hug me —which in this case is a good thing 😊😊

So I don't know basically we see each other on Wednesday’s. I don't know if it will turn into full fledge dating. I’m not exactly in the right space for that but as for how things are as of now, it’s good. So maybe down the line. We’ll see.

…and no need to worry bc of the posts 👍🏼 There were several posts bc the convo was 12,000 characters & posts are only 2,000–Not bc I was 5 posts worth of worried 😄I was setting a debate with a friend. I am not nor was I so much worried the guy is not honest it was more to see what other people thought bc my friend who is very observant normally, thought he was dishonest or will be trouble in future.

…. In my opinion initially he was acting unnatural and he probably is somewhere inbetween the first date where he presented as very traditionally and the second where he implied very loose character.

1 🤔 while you were single, were you still having sex?

2 OK sooo I do have friends with which there is a mutual attraction but where neither of us see a relationship working out and sometimes we “spend time together.”

1 So would you let me know if you were still “spending time together” if I decided I was ready to date (in future)

2 wouldn’t be “spending time together”

with them if You told me you wanted to date me.🙂

🤨 Well, what if I (in future) decided to date but I am not “ready to spend time together” ?

(SEX y’all we mean sex. In case anyone didn’t catch it. “Spending time together” was the euphemism P 1 originally used for banging his friends, & I was repeating for consistency)

2 If I have a reason to wait, I can wait. But we don’t really have to worry about that at this point.

1 🤨🧐😐 Wait so then why did you go through all that stuff in the first place about how you hope you can marry while your grandparents are still here. You seem fairly casual so I don’t see why you felt the need to mention it. I wouldn’t have even been concerned about any of this 🤦🏻‍♀️

2 Well honestly they are relatively young so they have time. And while I really mean it I also do not believe in forcing things… So I am hopeful but careful.

1 Ok

2 Ok

2 … So… what now 😐

1 I don't know 🤷🏻‍♀️ 👀

(Quiet for a long time)

2 Are you ready to go home? I will walk you. You are welcome to stay but it’s a bit late. I know you get up early af)

(So he walks me 🏡 I was quiet during)

2 OK so no kiss but Can I hug you😁?

1 hmm OK. maybe. ok NO. OK. 🤔

2 Are you sure? 👀

1 I think so? I don't know. nvm. Well, Uhh — maybe next time. Sorry not feeling it atm. 🤦🏻‍♀️

2 It’s OK. 😌

(He buttoned my top coat buttons which was a bit weird 👀 but I guess it’s something to do I don't know)

2 You will be at your tree 🌲 tomorrow?

1 Yeah… 🤷🏻‍♀️

2 See you on my way to work. You can tell me If you want to hang out / when you want to, yeah?

So we said good night. 🌚