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For context, I'm 17F, and a Senior in high school. My bus gets there pretty early, about 5 minutes before the others do. A while back, I met a guy. Let's call him Ryan (17M). And once he arrives at school, he always comes and sits down next to me on the stairs. For the last two or so months, he's been getting really close to me. And I don't know if he's leading me on, or whether or not he likes me. So, I'm going to list 3-4 things, and hopefully, I can get some advice on that.

• 1: At an assembly a few weeks ago, he was just sitting there, looking into my eyes, not saying anything. And then one of my friends suggests he should sit and turn around so he could see, and he came up and sat next to me, and was leaning into me the entire assembly, showing me stuff on his phone.
• 2: A week + 1/2 ago, I carried a baggy red overcoat to school, and I had set it down on the stairs. We talked normally, and when we went to get up, he grabbed it, took off his hoodie, and put it on. I wore his, and he wore mine, for the day. He returned my overcoat back to me but didn't want to take his hoodie back, so I still have it.
• 3: About 2 days ago, he took my hand and was comparing his hand's size to mine. (mine is significantly smaller.) He turned my wrist over, and took the bracelet that I was wearing, off. Then again, he wore it for the whole day and then gave it back.
• 4: Yesterday, we were sitting, and he asked to play the game I was playing. I handed him my phone, and he was just playing. I was talking with someone, and was just letting him mindlessly play. He poked my side, told me it had turned off, and went to hand me the phone. Since I was busy I just told him the code. (a mistake I know.) My other friend left, and I looked over and he was just mindlessly scrolling through my phone, going through my photos and apps. (I had a few photos of him in my phone, which he smiled at.)

And here we are. Advice?

I was inspired to ask this question when I came across the above photo on Reddit. It was apparently a post about a guy and his girlfriend who used to be very religious Mormons who always dressed "modestly" now becoming "ex-Mormons" who enjoy wearing "short shorts" together and don't pay attention to modesty anymore. And while I thought that was very sweet and "good for them," I couldn't help but notice the enormous length difference between the girl's shorts and the guy's shorts. And whether I liked it or not, it pissed me off. Not necessarily because of this isolated incident itself, but because of how common/widespread this phenomenon is in general. Even when it comes to children's shorts.

Like just look at the picture itself, it's a perfect example... her "short shorts" only have like a 2-3 inch inseam to them and stop at the very TOP of her thighs; while his "short shorts" have at least a solid 7-8 inch inseam to them and stop only SLIGHTLY above the knees, exposing only merely his very lower thighs.

Keep in mind these are supposed to be "short" male shorts too. Usually men's shorts don't show a few inches of thigh above the knee like in the photo. It's not uncommon for men's shorts to be knee-length or below the knee, with an inseam ranging from 12-15 inch inseam. So the length disparity is often even bigger than shown here.

Meanwhile, while the girl's shorts are indeed "short shorts" it's also hard to find shorts longer than that in the women's section, and as a result almost every woman wears that same length of shorts. So by female shorts standards they're not "short" but just "normal." And even the normal length women's shorts are short as fuck when compared to men's "short shorts"... you can kind of see the problem here.

It just feels like the fashion industry is unnecessarily sexualizing women and trying to get them to show way more skin/thigh than their male counterparts. It doesn't feel right.