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- Went on a first date off Hinge which went really well.

- I asked for her number on the date but it was incorrect. (I later realised she had got the last 2 digits the wrong way around when she put it into my phone.)

- I messaged her on Hinge asking if she’d be up for meeting up again and her reply 24 hours later was “Hello! Yeah got home safe thanks, had a lovely eve :) yeah meeting up again would be cool :)”

- She’s very busy in her job so I suggested an activity and told her what days I’m available and 48 hours later - no response.

- I also found her on instagram as she gave me her full name when she saved her number into my phone. I don’t want to message her on WhatsApp (corrected number with last 2 digits reversed) as it might seem too forward as it was only by chance I figured out the error. And I don’t want to add her on insta without asking her first.

One thing that would happen to me a lot in my time as a bouncer, a football player, and now as a (heavy air quotes) hockey player is people actively disrespecting me, maybe trying to goad me into something, maybe not, but always them being an asshole without provocation from me. You can think it’s ridiculous or not, but disrespect will get the worst out me. I could throw my whole life away over intentional disrespect, which sounds crazy when cool-headed me is typing it, but seems like the logical solution when I lose control of myself. Needless to say that has caused some negative situations in the past, to put it politely.

I have to own my response, as unintentional and unconscious as it might be. There have definitely been times when people have just been like “holy fuck, dude, take it easy!”, and I get it, but it really pisses me off that no one is mad at the person who brought this out of me, because it’s not like I just flip for nothing. You have to do something egregious to get me there. What you do might not be as loud, or as physical, but you’re still every bit the asshole for creating the environment for a situation like that to transpire. I’m not blame-free, but I’m not even there without you doing something first.

So I guess I’m saying I feel like the quiet “cause” gets dismissed, and the blame just completely shifts to the noisy “effect”, and I think that’s pretty off-base if you ask me. I very much reject the notion that I or anyone else should just be able to absorb whatever mistreatment we experience and not react, and if we do, everything is our fault. That really feels like a cop-out for the more common “quiet offender” to get away with doing stupid shit and then spinning it around on whoever calls them out or reacts to their bad behavior.

“My body my choice” is an acceptable response to mask requirements because no person is affected by you wearing a piece of cloth on your face. It is NOT an acceptable response to abortion rights. Abortion is making a conscious decision to stop the life of another human being from ever starting. Killing another person, albeit not a fully developed person who understands what it is happening, is NOT a woman’s right. Abortion should only be allowed in the most extreme circumstances ( ie rape , giving birth would severely harm the mother) .