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The real reason. Dating is based on value. People assign values to each other and how we perceive whether someone is on our level or higher is based on behavior, wealth, looks, social status; we do this with materialistic objects so why not people.
Women are hypergamous meaning they only want to get with a man they deem better than them. When a nice guy meets a woman he often tends to use niceness to try and win her over and show to her that she is special but this does not translate to the female brain as such.

Before having sex a woman perceives a man doing nice things for her as him trying to bargain with her on why she should give him a chance. Obviously if your bargaining with someone the person who you come to has the higher ground and therefore higher perceived value. Thus, a woman in such situation will reject the nice guy advantage because hypergamy dictates you must be better than her to get those panties.


The only case this does not hold true is when there is such a large contrast in looks, social status, money in the man's favor that him being nice does not hit his chances with the woman. The reason for this is because he has enough self evident things in front of him that the woman perceives him to be of higher value to her and him being nice comes from a place of generosity rather than a place of sucking up the female's minds. Such men women often refer to as GOOD MEN.
Thus, the reason nice guys fail is because women perceive kind acts as a way of sucking up rather than actual being nice to them (this is before sex). After sex the woman has given her investment and if a man continues to be kind to her then she considers just that because she believes the man has gotten what he wanted from her yet still persist with kind gesture so he must really be a nice person to her.

Okay so here's a brief time line of events in chronological order. We're both 18

-Told my best friend i liked her and she said she'll think about it. we did have a long talk, and yes she IS thinking
-Some serious drama occured between me and her. Basically I trusted her friends word on something over hers, found out later my best friend was never lying. Unfortunately while i was mad at her i called her a liar and other hurtful stuff
-She then told me a couple days later over text when i brought up dating "you used up all your chances".
-Then a week later we hung out and got drunk (I was buzzed, she was drunk). i asked again to make sure she was serious and she said "we'll always be friends but we're not dating". and i kinda tried to reason with her and apologize more and she just yelled at me "We're not fucking dating" and i walked off and didn't speak to her for 3 days.
- On the first day of her new job i broke the silence by wishing her well on the first day (to show i remember and care and stuff) and she tried to keep a conversation going but i wasn't feeling it because of what happened.
-I eventually texted her a couple days later "Ive done so much for you before i even started liking you (and i listed a lot of stuff) and i just want one favor back, just one last final chance and ill NEVER bring up dating again" and she never responded. I let 2 weeks go by then I asked again and she finally answered "Because i'm a petty b*tch. Dont get me wrong, i forgive you but i dont forget" but that didn't answer my question about a last chance or not?
-At a concert this girl she used to like (she's bi), who f*cked her over, texted her. she randomly told me "Dont worry i didn't respond". im not sure if she's doing that because "Oh i might date him" or "I dont want him feeling hurt i mighta talked to someone i like"

As you can tell she's still hurt and holding onto stuff i said, i dont blame her. but based on the last two points, am i gonna have a possible chance or not?