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So my roommate’s bf’s best friend is super attractive and checks off a lot of my boxes personality & life desires wise. I very much want to pursue something with him, but I’m super nervous since I’m in my mid/late 20s & have only ever had 1 boyfriend (who I dated off & on for a few months at a time for a few years, v toxic), he’s 1.5 years younger than me & has only ever had 1 girlfriend (only dated her for a couple months), & we’re also in a friend group together. I have more hookup experience than him, but I don’t really have a lot of dating experience, especially not healthy dating experience. The few times I have dated in the past, I’ve been told that I’m too clingy or move too fast to be serious bc I’m very touchy when I like someone. My love language is physical touch & sex is how I express a lot of affection, & sex early on doesn’t mean I’m not trying to be serious, it means I’m interested in you. If I can’t express myself in that way, then we’re not compatible.

He invited me over to his place the other night to watch some tv, & I went over & we drank some wine. I was holding his hand, put my head on his shoulder, cuddled up next to him, etc. I was expecting him to make the next move if he was interested in doing so. I’m very nervous about making all the physical moves bc I’ve been told in the past that I’m too cuddly & too physical. Well, he has even less experience than me & I don’t think he really knows how or when to move it to the next level. Long story short, I ended up leaving the other night without so much as a kiss from him, despite me being very cuddly. He seemed receptive to me touching him and when I even asked if I was doing too much he told me no, he just didn’t make a move to move things forward.

Is he uninterested & just wanting the attention? Or does it seem like he’s nervous too?

Context : My friend and I are arguing, I feel like she's settiting higher expectations aswell as not taking this seriously. Below are 2 texts.

Me:"Okay so I know Ur busy and I know that u can't respond all the time. I also understand that u don't want deep convos all the time and I get that. However I can't be understanding to the point that I ignore how I feel. I feel that we do only talk when u have a college question or issue. I feel that when I speak about "chill" things that u don't want to ask me more. I know that everyone should priorize themselves but at the end of the day if everyone did and I'll use an example :like a road with a give way sign, if no one let the cars into the road and put others first then we would all be in a traffic jam. l think my point is that sometimes Ur too wrapped up in Ur stuff to be aware enough that other things are going on too. I think we do have polar opposite views and that we are at different stages. But it goes beyond that, you need to improve from the inside out too. I think my points are valid and that if I do make mistakes I own up to them, this isn't one of them. I think u need to reflect "

Her:"Like it is valid I haven't been saying they haven't been but I just say my views and how it think it's been a long time since I haven't been able to be who I am and just changed and I really like this me not being a kiss ass or scared to sac speak to someone. Like I'm Not to the point of not acknowledgingp ppls feelings it cuz I don't want to deal with it and don't care and domt hv the time to care or just don't care in general nothing personal I just don't atm but it's still valid. I don't think I hv set expectations like I've just been having convo with u like doesn't mean u hv to look into it deeply. Like nothing for me rn is deep and don't want to think about it. Like I haven't feel like it has changed and idm cuz I don't feel like anything has chnage and we can still just talk about anything literally idm"