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So there's a girl at work who's always flirting/talking with me and toughing my hand at weird times while looking me straight in the eye (which is kind of awkward). But anyway, I want to ask her if she'd like to go somewhere nice, like this new restaurant that servers innovative food in my town.

I'm thinking about either buying her flowers first and asking her or just straight up asking her. The biggest issue is that she's married and she might already be having a date with her husband. I'm not really sure how to go about this cause she def flirts with me A LOT, but I don't know if it's just her teasing and trying to have fun throughout the workday or if she finds me attractive.

So I’m at a bit of a crossroads, and thought I’d ask on here. To get right to it, I’m 30 and have no dating experience and never been in a relationship. Usually on Valentine’s Day, I go to the casino to play slot machines while I drink and vape THC oil as it helps lessen the blow that I’ve been alone my whole life. But just the other day, I heard an ad on the radio that the station airing the ad is hosting a singles mixer. Now I can’t decide what to do, but I am reluctant to go to the singles mixer because I feel like where I’m at in my life will get me written off by all women. Not only do I have no experience at 30, but I also still live at home with my parents, all I do for work is deliver for DoorDash, and I don’t have any friends. Asking what you do for work is one of the most common icebreaker questions and saying that all I do is DoorDash at 30 is more than likely gonna get looked down upon. So maybe I should try and improve these aspects of my life and go next year.

This person (25F) and I (23M) have been talking. She works as a supervisor at my nearest grocery store where I live. During the many times we've seen each other very rarely will she smile or initiate a "hi" (but I'm not saying that doesn't totally exist). Most of the time I go out of my way to chat with her. I know some things about her via the answers she gave me to my questions. She's a Gemini, I'm a Capricorn. But that's pretty much the only thing I know personally about her. She didn't even ask about my last name, what ethnicity I am, or my phone number or social media info. (She knows very few things about me other than the fact that I used to work at Whole Foods and that I am now taking online school.) I recorded a few TikTok videos jokingly talking about how I met this girl and made some jokes about a particular, really cranky guy from a commercial that sells pillows. I told her jokingly that I was his godson, she said, "Oh yeah! I remember you!"

But lately, she's kinda been ghosting me, limiting to just short chit-chats. I don't think she's all that interested. She's likely lost all interest in me. Even today my aunt honked at me as I was JUST going to talk to this girl, but she didn't even notice me or the car honking.

I did ask if she's down for the gym or the movies, she said while she appreciates me asking her out, she cannot go out.

With that said, I gave her some flowers/roses on Mother's Day and she really appreciated it. But she didn't say anything when I hid a Valentine's Day card inside with some chocolates in a bag.

Sometimes I feel like an a—hole for not going out of my way to talk to her today. But few days ago I was exiting the store, she was just glancing at me for a second and didn't even do or say anything. I feel left out, excluded, psychologically burned out because of her betrayal. She acted so f—king nice to me.