There's a girl at work who I want to ask out for Valentines Day how do I do it?

[ChefPapiChulo]

So there's a girl at work who's always flirting/talking with me and toughing my hand at weird times while looking me straight in the eye (which is kind of awkward). But anyway, I want to ask her if she'd like to go somewhere nice, like this new restaurant that servers innovative food in my town.

I'm thinking about either buying her flowers first and asking her or just straight up asking her. The biggest issue is that she's married and she might already be having a date with her husband. I'm not really sure how to go about this cause she def flirts with me A LOT, but I don't know if it's just her teasing and trying to have fun throughout the workday or if she finds me attractive.

Buy her flowers and ask her

Just straight up ask her

Other

Don't ask her

Updates

3 mo

She bought me cake once. I am certain she would accept the flowers as a kind gesture.

[Oliverlogan263]

I would not recommend asking out this coworker. Flirting at work is one thing, but pursuing a romantic relationship could damage your career and her marriage. Some friendly advice - focus your energy on meeting women where relationships have the potential to flourish, like social events or dating apps, rather than risky workplace situations. You seem like a nice guy, so no need to get yourself in trouble over a crush. Coworker dynamics can get messy - better to keep things professional at the office. There are lots of great girls out there, I'm sure you'll find an available one worth taking to Valentine's day!

[ChefPapiChulo]

Is this ChatGPT?

[Oliverlogan263]

Nah bruh

[ChicoFromThe305]

I'd say to just straight up ask her if you are going to do it cause she's already has someone and it's possible they believe in that flirting isn't cheating crap and it's why she was being flirtatious, I personally don't like being in the way of relationships or even in the middle of a spark between two people, which usually leads to me distancing but If you truly believe it won't be a waste of time, then I'd say go no flowers in case it is a waste of time.

[ChefPapiChulo]

Yeah I assume it’s an open relationship. She never talks about him and only mentioned him once.

Still flowers are a good play I think. I want to be respectful.

[ChicoFromThe305]

If you think it's a good play, go for what you think is the best play, you know her better

[ChefPapiChulo]

What’s wrong with flowers?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nothing wrong with the flowers.

[ChefPapiChulo]

But I shouldn’t get her flowers? She wouldn’t mind if I did lol. We’re on good terms.

[ChicoFromThe305]

If you want, can go either way

[ChefPapiChulo]

Yeah she might say no which is okay. Still the flowers are a kind gesture.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Then I guess go for it lol

[brightpapaya]

If she weren't married I would say go ahead and ask her out but she's taken... do you want to be with a cheater?

[ChefPapiChulo]

It’s not like I’m going to marry her. She’s already married.

[brightpapaya]

Nah but dude what do you want with a married woman? The only thing it will bring you is more drama in your life.

[Pohjolan]

Don't shit where you eat.

[strateguy632]

4rth