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When we just started dating my boyfriend was very loving, unlike any other guy I have dated before. He always made time to text me during the day even though we’re both busy working, called me straight after work and we could chat for hours, sent me flowers, always compliment me and tell me daily that he loves me, once he even flew to another country to see me and take out for dinner also he insisted and paid for the tickets just for me to go and see him and it was like this for a year but now as we are dating for nearly 2 years I just feel how everything has changed. He texts me just good morning and it’s every day the same like he does it because he has to not because he wants to. No more texts unless i text first and he gives a dry answer or he needs something, in the evening he is usually busy or in the best case calls me for 15-30 min and then says that he still has things to do and has to go. Even when we talk for longer I can say that he’s not really listening and just starts doing something around with me on the phone. He stopped saying that he loves me unless I say so he can answer with I love you too. When I ask him if everything is ok and if he wants to be with me because I feel that he got a bit cold he always says yes, that I am overthinking and should stop asking silly questions. Is it time to get worried or am I actually just overthinking and it is normal that after some time things change this way?

He said he noticed a lot of people looking at him but they were more attractive than me.

He came home to me (it was my birthday) the following day. He slept with me took me out for dinner and told me how much he loved me many times.

Today I asked when I’d see him next he said we aren’t together. Made a new Instagram account and followed people he had previous history with that I told him I was uncomfortable about and someone he tried to cheat with. He hasn’t done this in years. I was away at the weekend with my friend and he claimed his dick was super clean now feels weird and that I must have cheated. He said I dunno if I believe you didn’t cheat. I didn’t cheat. I didn’t even talk to a single guy. I had offers but I didn’t take any and texted him
Until his phone died about how much I loved and missed him.

We had a falling out because he turned his phone off when he was out and he never does this so I asked and said holy shit you’re cheating Avis how could you do this to me etc. and he fell out with me said he was done cos I said that. Then agreed to talk agisn.

We’d be rocky because I was asking often because he seemed weird are you cheating on me? Do you have someone else? Do you hide our relationship? Etc maybe once a day some days others I wouldn’t ask at all.

Did he look at me and think I can do well better than her

Or is it revenge he knew this would hurt me in the worst way possible and now he’s trying to do that. He does think I cheated so now wants revenge or he got his ego filled and now thinks he can get whoever.

He also told me I get in the way of his goals and it isn’t against me it’s anyone he doesn’t want a relationship he wants to focus on his hobby he wants to make a full time job. He promised me he had no one else. And doesn’t want anyone. He’s not interested in anyone but made this new account and added them and didn’t add me.

All this when he said he loved me the night before

Pros:
- Very thoughtful towards my family and spends time with them, pays for them when going out
- Loves me, always checks up on me and takes care of me.
-We also have fun joking around and talking to each other
- Sometimes surprise me with snacks so I don't stress out too much in school
-Very good with kids and always trying to make me happy when I communicate my needs and
concerns

Cons:
-Doesn't have similar interests together (I like sightseeing, exercising, and going out, he likes staying home and spend time with fam)
-Doesn't have a stable career or any ambition
(Makes minimum wage and tells me he will find a better job but nothing changed after a few years,
I'm still in school trying to become a nurse)
-Incompatible sex drives (I get sex deprived bc we only have sex when he wants it and we don't do it as much)
- Doesn't prioritize me (last minute cancelled on my bday bc he doesn't want to do what I want to do and is tired that day)

Overall it's not a bad relationship. He's a very sweet guy but sometimes I don't feel like we're compatible and lately, I feel like im slowly falling out of love. Especially since he's not even trying to improve himself with a better career. But then at the same time I still have so much love for him and don't want to regret leaving him. We've been together for a couple years so I don't know. Is this relationship worth staying in or should I find someone more compatible?