When we just started dating my boyfriend was very loving, unlike any other guy I have dated before. He always made time to text me during the day even though we’re both busy working, called me straight after work and we could chat for hours, sent me flowers, always compliment me and tell me daily that he loves me, once he even flew to another country to see me and take out for dinner also he insisted and paid for the tickets just for me to go and see him and it was like this for a year but now as we are dating for nearly 2 years I just feel how everything has changed. He texts me just good morning and it’s every day the same like he does it because he has to not because he wants to. No more texts unless i text first and he gives a dry answer or he needs something, in the evening he is usually busy or in the best case calls me for 15-30 min and then says that he still has things to do and has to go. Even when we talk for longer I can say that he’s not really listening and just starts doing something around with me on the phone. He stopped saying that he loves me unless I say so he can answer with I love you too. When I ask him if everything is ok and if he wants to be with me because I feel that he got a bit cold he always says yes, that I am overthinking and should stop asking silly questions. Is it time to get worried or am I actually just overthinking and it is normal that after some time things change this way?
Is it normal or my relationship is falling apart?
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Hmmm this is a common occurrence. What happened was he had to put in hella effort to get the prize. Aka YOU and then after he got the prize he no longer saw the need to continue doing what he was doing. I mean why? He already got you🤔
I'm not gonna say your relationship is falling apart but the love doesn't sound like it's there as much as it use to be. And depending on his attitude towards you on everyday. That's how you'll know if it's falling apart. Answer this question for me, does it feel like a relationship or just a friendship where you guys just happen to be fuckin🤔🤔
He could be losing feelings🤔 but I know not everything is face value and you have to look deeper in to reasons to figure out why he's seeming cold or whatever
At the moment I probably would say it’s more like second option with friendship.. You see, I am often abroad ( work related ) and as we don’t see each in person daily he used to miss me, push me a lot towards coming to see him, even changing my work so I can stay beside him. Now even when I fly back to him he doesn’t seem as excited, rather really casual “hey mate” instead of i missed you so much. I tried spicing it up in bed at first as I thought maybe it is sex related as we are quite a bit of time on a distance but it’s all ok there, no changes from his side. But despite the fact that we have good sex I still don’t feel that he loves me as he used to, I know something is off and I can’t understand how to fix it and when I want to discuss it with him he says that I want to start an argument with him… so confused on how to be… break up or wait a bit more..
Hmmm well then it is very possible he's losing interest. And its gone from that great relationship to him just " going through the motion " if you get what I mean by that. Like it's just become something he's use to.
My suggestion is you're gonna have to try to get him to talk about what's wrong, if he doesn't then maybe your relationship has run its course🤔 unfortunately for you. Just try to fight for that relationship one last time before you break up that way you know YOU tried everything you could and didn't just leave without closure pr whatever. But with that being said. When it comes to fighting for a relationship, generally it takes two to do that. Not just one. If its just one, maybe only one wants the relationship
Wife did this to me after marriage. It seems normal as in a lot of people experience this. But you should communicate and get to the bottom of why it's happening. If he won't talk about it then I'd think about finding someone else.