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So there's a girl at work who for one week straight until a Saturday I noticed has been staring at me even when I notice and take a quick look back to see if she's still staring. I couldn't really tell if she smiled back or what because I would look for one second and look away and saw she would keep her gaze until I was gone plus she had a mask on a few times. She wears glasses but I notice sometimes she takes her glasses off and puts them on and I tried to to notice or take a guess when and I don't want to say she is but she might be copying me. Finally a week after she was staring at me and I didn't say anything to her I finally go up to her and ask her for her name which she tells me, I introduce myself to her and tell I'm probably interested in getting to know her more she says okay and after that she kinda ignores me. She didn't tell me she had a boyfriend when I said I wanted to get to know her but deep down I have a feeling she has a boyfriend and she was playing with me the whole time. Before moving on I'm going to give a few things about her, one of them being I notice she kind of keeps to herself so that kind of gives me hints she either keeps to herself or she doesn't want to be bothered by anyone. Not sure but sometimes she goes home early which gives me hints of her having a child. She's a light skin Spanish girl which gives me hints that she is playing with me since Spanish women don't date dark skin men and I'm what you would call a black American, she's not exotic hot Spanish woman but moreso homely cute, and her work clothes isn't something that makes her stand out it's more loose fit baggy jeans. The reason I didn't go over to her and went a week later is because I wasn't and still not sure if she actually is interested in me because I'm old (41) and she looks young, she's Spanish and I'm black, and this is a first for me. Is she playing me or am I being to BP'ed.

Ok me and this girl met when we were about 20 and had a great relationship for 8 years. I started drinking and it lead to us breaking up. She started dating a guy 2 weeks later I introduced her to. They lasted less than a year and we got back together exactly a year after separating.

I ended up finding pictures of her in sexy outfits and nudes on our old camera one day and some sexting stuff while going through our stuff in a closet I was cleaning out. I didn't tell her I found them. I spent the next 3 years trying to get her to send me dirty pictures. She broke up with me again and we separated for 3 years and then ended up back together again.

we've been back together over 10 years now and I have randomly tried a lot of times to get her to send me sexy stuff or sext with me, nothing has worked. This finally came to a head. I got tired of trying and getting nothing. We got into a pretty big argument about it and during the argument I find out that she thinks I'm talking about pictures she sent to another guy she dated right after we broke up the second time.

So both guys she dated right after we split she sent nudes and sexted with but whenever I have tried to get her to in the past I get excuses like she's worried about sending them because someone could get them for whatever reason which is all just excuses to me. So What, did you send them with pigeons the last 2 times.

Over the years this has gotten under my skin trying and never getting anything back. I usually have tried when I've been out of town for work or something. When I've tried sexting with her the responses have been either nothing at all or something that was just lame or her saying she didn't know what to say.

She says that she's been more sexually adventurous with me than anyone else ever. Our sex life I used to think was good but now I'm second guessing it. I usually make sure she gets off first and then she's in a hurry to get it over with. why is there no desire or lust there for her?