Actually girlfriend or really just a fling?

[ConfusedGirl0628]

Okay me and my guy chatted/talked for three or four months which was all on me before going on a date we have officially been boyfriend and girlfriend for about two or three months now but I feel more like a fling then a girlfriend.

We have been out three or four times but only two of them were actually dates. I work second shift he works third shift so we do hangout later then normal cause of our schedule.

We only see each other about once a week. He well pick me go to his place watch TV and door dash food then he play video games while I take a bath or shower. Then we hangout for a couple more hours do the nasty then sleep the he drops me off before he goes to work.

Side note he does live with his parents since he moved back in with them to help take care of his brother so I have meet his parents in passing but we have never had dinner or anything like that and iv never meet any of his friends yet. He does have a really demanding job with twelve hour shift and a lot of overtime. But he finally has the weekend off and he already made plans that don't involve me. It been about a week since we have seen each other.

He is my first serious boyfriend and I just wanna get some advice.

[SueShe]

Am I correct that you go to HIS PARENT's to fornicate?

Are his parents aware that he takes women to their place to do the "nasty things" and that you use their bathroom? Have they agreed to that scheme?

So, his special needs brother could actually have seen you doing the unthinkable? Don't you think it is irresponsible to potentially subject him to those nasty things?

Unless the parents agree with the copulating under their roof, you should obviously not be doing that deed there. It is not appropriate at all.

Now, you are supposed to be his girlfriend and yet he is going out without you. That does not really sound like a boyfriend to me but it does indeed look like you are just a fling, a side affair to get rid of his testosterone. I would have the record straight at once and let him know about it.

[DishLady]

I would ask him if he sees you as boyfriend/girlfriend or if he is just being casual with you since you're saying here that not all your dates were "dates". Make sure you're on the same page.

[RHK36]

He's using you for just sex. It's a nice chill casual relationship to him. If you want something different or more then speak up. If he's dismissive then you have your answer.

[OlderAndWiser]

Why did you have sex do soon in the relationship?

[Nikki1989]

The problem isn't necessarily his lack of interest; the problem is the lack of relationship structure that proves commitment.

[In_Trance]

Tldr