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So my bf’s been in a bad mood for a while now, he gets pissed at the little things that I do. I’ve been giving him space and distancing myself from him, I don’t bother him anymore other than just to have a quick chat sending funny videos, I don’t talk about my problems with him bcs he has a lot to deal with already, I even keep quiet and learned to take the punches he throws at me (not literally, emotional punches) and brush it off as him having an off day.

Earlier he got annoyed because I asked him a question about how his day was and he said that I’m being insensitive and annoying. I said “it was just a question, no need to be aggressive please”. Then he went to work, he then sent me a bunch of texts consisting of long paragraphs detailing my mistakes.

He does this a lot and usually I would respond with me explaining myself and how he took my actions the wrong way, I also always apologize and promise to do better. But then he would blow up and start an argument, he would also say “let’s drop this” and I’d say “okay let’s” but then he would proceed with prolonging the argument all over again… I know his pattern and I’m not gonna play along with it anymore so I simply said “Okay, I understand” and left it at that.

He then texted me back saying that he doesn’t believe me and that he needs reassurance that I won’t annoy him again. I just said “Trust me, I understand what you’re saying, I hear you”. Then he said “k.” I know he’s pissed when he responds with that. But I didn’t bother responding after that.

Did I do the right thing or was I being rude? I just don’t want him to weaponize my words to start another argument so I kept it simple and straightforward. Plus he already painted me as the bad guy anyway…

So there was a spider on the wall (the biggest spider I'd ever seen) so I internally start freaking out and hurry to tell him, (I knock on the door and tell him about the spider) and the first thing he says is "so what im I supposed to do just hop outta the shower and get it?" And let me yell u it was the most annoyed insensitive tone I'd ever heard him muster up... by time he's outta the shower he gets the spider and puts it outside. Later that day I bring up to him how I didn't like how he spoke to me and that it was rude, he continues to tell me that it was childish of me to bother him in the shower and that I should have waited to say anything to him until he's out of the shower, that im a grown women afraid over a spider and that im too emotional and need to think first before I do and say things to him... how am I suppose to know what I should say or so so it doesn't annoy him or aggravate him... he's actually like this outside of the slider incident... like if he's on his phone a lot and I try to get his attention he will tell me to chill out or ask why I'm acting like that... it's really hurtful and I feel like I'm walking on eggshells and can't be myself because I'm afraid he will react aggressive or insensitive... what do you guys think?