What should I have done when the guy I rejected started being rude to me?

[Anonymous]

Hey! I’ve known this guy for seven years now. We were good friends. I’m someone who is averse to dating or being in a relationship. On the other hand; my friend had been in three relationships over the years I had known him. I was in touch with him after his third girlfriend broke up with him. It had left him dejected and I tried to support him emotionally to the best of my ability. We got really close but I never suspected he was beginning to develop feelings for me. Eventually, he asked me out and I had to politely reject him. I tried to talk to him as usual after that but our friendship was ruined. He started being quite rude to me by making insensitive comments. It was a complete behavioural shift from his side. I slowly cut him off (to make it look unforced) to protect myself emotionally. Did I do the right thing? Can someone please explain his behaviour? I don’t seem to understand anything about guys! I feel really bad about unintentionally leading him on by getting emotionally close to him. But I had to protect myself at the same time. Can someone please give me advice on how to move on?

[MementoMori777]

You did do the right thing, even tho I understand his point of putting effort and time into someone for so long to then just get rejected must suck but insulting her and getting mad at her isn't the way to go and that's where he fucked up, you wanting to sprite from such behavior is also understandable.

[MementoMori777]

Separate*

[Filthy_Immigrant]

you already took the #1 best option.

I think you should of been more honest to him from the start and tell him that you were just supporting him emotionally and not actually showing interest in him so he wouldn't get his hopes to high.

but yeah it also sounds like he is an oversensitive little shit. just dont talk to his ass anymore

[NotTacocaT6969]

You did the right thing.


A guy who becomes bitter after rejection was never really your friend.


If you reject a guy who was truly your friend, he gets quiet, sad and needs reassurance that you still think of him as a friend despite what happened.

[Anonymous]

It's possible you didn't lead him on. But you also might have taken advantage of his vulnerability for your own personal gain. If you truly didn't lead him on then all you can do is learn from this. And interact better with the next guy so this doesn't happen again. Or you could just not interact with him at all. Then the problem is solved.

[spartan55]

Protect yourself from what? What do you mean by insensitive comments?

[Danny_dan92]

Move on with your life

[NostalgiaSenpi]

End the friendship and move on.

[In_Trance]

Walk away. Stop interacting with him